Re-Approaching Fingering

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  1. Logger

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    Sometimes I start fingering my wife too early in the sequence of arousal, and my wife lete=s me know that my fingering is irritating her; so I withdraw my finger, and work less sensitive areas for a while, before re-approaching fingering.

    Sucking and licking her nipples, massaging her back and leg muscles, lubricating her clitoral area, licking her ear lobes, and other preliminary love moves.

    The I re-approach, usually with pressure toward the Taint, with my finger agaisnt her sphincter muscles inside her vagina. I try to massage her large muscles at the same time, and just move my finger gently. I try to work up to her prostate, or "G" spot.

    I have seen many porn and massage videos, but I don't think I am doing it he best way. So I start this thread, to see if someone want so share techniques on now to turn on a woman with fingering techniques, so that she will be more aroused, and more ready to make love.


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  2. Barbwire

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    Logger, the way you described your technique made my vagina contract involuntarily and my caused my clit to wink. I do believe, that for the first time ever you've written something that didn't creep me out and actually got me horny. :brow

    My favourite way to be fingered is to have my husband on his right side facing me and as I lie on my back In that position, if I twist just right my husband can suck and pinch my breasts while he fingers me.

    He starts out gently licking, kissing, and sucking my breasts. That gets me wet within minutes. He then slides his hand down to my pussy and I move my left leg over his legs and bend my knee so he can work two fingers inside of me. He then takes his thumb and grabs some of my dew to moisten it. Once his thumb is slippery he uses it on my clit.

    As I get more into it, I encourage him with the sounds I make and arch my body towards his hand. I also use my free hand to push his head harder against my breast. That is his cue to suck harder and to start teething my nipple.

    As I get closer to coming, if he hasn't done so already, I will tell him to bite down harder and to mash his thumb into my clit. At this point, if I want to delay orgasm, I'll have him fuck me hard and fast with his fingers and keep his thumb off my clit. The pumping motion of his fingers makes my juices spill out of me and they coat his fingers and hand. It also feels FANTASTIC to me and makes my pussy tighten.

    By this time I have usually licked my hand or wet it with my pussy juice and have started to stroke his cock and cup his balls, sometime slipping a finger into his ass or just massaging around the hole. I do this to the point of him getting hard but usually have to stop for fear of hurting him. The closer I get to orgasm the less control I have over myself and I can't give head or a hand job when I'm in that condition.

    When it's time for me to orgasm I tell my husband to hurt me with his teeth on my nipple. Usually, that kind of pain sends me over the edge but sometimes when I'm feeling extreme, I will grab the nipple he's not biting and pinch and twist it in a very rough manner.

    That shot of pain usually makes me start to orgasm. As the first waves hit me, I push my husband's head away from my breasts and stop pinching myself. My husband knows this is his cue to tear up my clit a bit more which makes me scream and writhe on the bed, totally out of control. My husband sits back and watches the show until I pull him on top of me or spin around and get on my hands and knees with my ass pointed in him direction.

    He then mounts up and it's off to the races. Either that, or I finish him in my mouth or hand, depending on what we're into that night. :phat

    I don't know if I answered your question Logger, but I do know I just got wet writing all that.

    Gee, between your story and my own, I'm about ready to slide right off this computer chair. :dgrin



     
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  3. igor

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    Yeah, uh huh, WOW! :phat
     
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    cowboy lover, you sound like a lot of fun in bed
     
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    Thank you and welcome to SF, robo.

     
  6. Logger

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    Maybe some feedback questions,

    A. Is this enough lube for my finger on the outside of your lips?

    B. Is this too much pressure against your sphincter muscles?

    C. Is this too deep too soon?

    D. Should I go more side to side,or is in and out ok for now?

    E. Are you ready for me to go to your G spot?

    F. Am I at your G spot?

    G. Is my 1/4 inch circle on your G spot OK?

    H. Can you relax, climax and squirt my hand?

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  7. Barbwire

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    Logger, I doubt a woman would want to be questioned so formally in the middle of having sex. Questions like: "Does that feel good, baby?" "You want it harder?" "Can you come for me, girl?" Those are the types of questions that seem more natural to me.

    Oh, and , if a dude mentioned "sphincter muscles" during sex it would be a TOTAL turn off to me.
     
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    :whoa That just gave me a :slong... I so love your posts...:bow Now what to do with this thing, and my wife`s not home....:spank
     
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    What Questions can I ask my wife, so I can do better at fingering her clit?

    I usually am shoulder to shoulder with my wife, and put my middle finger next to her clit, and first apply plenty of lube.


    Should I move my finger in smaller circles?

    Should I put my finger closer to your outer lips?

    Am I putting too much pressure on your clit?

    Should I use a lighter touch?

    Can I use longer strokes with my finger up and down, with a light touch?

    Compiments:

    I can feel your energy building.

    This is making me excited.



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  10. HardRocker

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    Ask her to show you how she does it.
     
  11. Logger

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    I wish she would.

    Different women have different views on sharing masturbation. My wife seems modest on showing me her self-pleasuring techniques. I will probably just struggle along on my own, but if she would show me, that would make it easier.



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    Mine is that way too. Lucky for me, I hit all the right buttons after a few tries. Last time I asked her to show me, she started, then hesitated and said, You do it, you can do it better than I can anyway. I know it's hard to believe, but I think, unlike guys, there are women who aren't particularly fascinated with masturbation.

    Try this: sit up in bed leaning on some pillows and have her sit in front of, your lap. If she is agile enough, you can try having her throw one of her legs over yours. Reach around with a slick finger and start slowly diddling her. You can feel her breathing and heartbeat as she's leaning back on your chest. Carry on... but go slow and feel her reactions. Don't forget to kiss her on the neck and cheek.
     
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  13. Logger

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    Sounds Exciting. I am sometimee unsure of when it is OK to stop. I sometimes ask if she is ready for intercourse, before stopping.

    Some nights, I am fairly certain that intercourse is not on the nights menu, so I can ask her if she is ready for me to change positions. before I withdraw my fingers.
     
  14. enz660

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    lick her ear, trust me, it works wonders.

    Good sex starts before there is even any physical contact. Its how you feel about each other, how you see each other.

    Make her know you want her so badly, and you are a total animal that will give her hard cock that she wants.
     
  15. Logger

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    The other day, I used the heel of my thumb across the mouth of her hole. She had asked me to finger the edges of her hole, but my fingers did not seem to work right.




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