Rape

Discussion in 'General Sex Discussion' started by JonJo, Jun 29, 2014.

  1. JonJo

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    How many women on here fantasise about being raped?
    Grabbed, assaulted, battered into submission and being forced to have sex?
     
  2. AGFUNK

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    You really should specify rape play vs actual rape. They are two totally different things.
     
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    No. Never. Either.
    Rape is a crime for a reason and I don't think it should be considered play.
     
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    For once I agree with you
     
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    Wife #1 would sometimes playfully resist while we were having sex, usually with a big smile on her face. The more I tried to move forward the harder she would resist. She always did like it a bit rougher than most of the woman I had/have been with. Not sure if it qualifies? I am feeling tired just thinking about doing anything like that again -it was always a hell of a workout.
     
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    Also I enjoy rape play. We have a safe word and if I say it everything stops. I enjoy the control he has over me. It's nothing like actual rape. I have been raped and it's not fun at all.
     
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    No. Never. Not into rape play at all. There is absolutely nothing sexy about it.
     
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    No I shouldn't the question was "Do you fantasise about being raped".
    Do you fantasise about when you were raped?
    Does it come into your mind when you are 'playing'?
    And this time I am being 'judgemental' - AGFUNK, I wouldn't trust that ******* you live with to pay any notice to anything, word or action, if he got it into his 'game befuddled' head, because he obviously has trouble differentiating between 'play' and reality.
     
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    Talking about actual rape is against the rules. And no I don't and find that extremely offensive that you would ask.

     
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    For once I agree with you ( no wonder I have a headache )

    What if one day he doesn't stop when you use the safe word? What if he ignores you? Will you still enjoy the " rape play "??
    I wouldn't trust him . JMO
     
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    Just putting it out there and then I'm done. The last time we did this was three years ago. We haven't been able to do any hardcore stuff for awhile with being pregnant and now living in a studio. I trust him completely when it comes to sex. He does have control for that. His game really has nothing to do with the self control he has in the bedroom. He knows what happened to me and he would never do that to me. He had issues even being as rough as I want him to be.
     
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    Inappropriate dude. You had no right to ask her that.
     
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    Alright I lied, I'm not done just because Jonjo's comment pissed me off so much.

    When I was raped I felt helpless. It was painful, humiliating that I put myself in that situation, shamed and many other emotions I cannot express. IT IS NOTHING LIKE RAPE PLAY WITH MY HUSBAND.

    When I did rape play with my husband there was a feeling of absolute trust and love that he was willing to do that. I didn't think about actually being raped at all. I don't know how to make that more clear.
     
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    My wife has been raped, no fucking fantasy involved. The only thing she fantasies about is gutting the cocksucker that did it.
     
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    You did just fine AG. Big hug for you girl. :)
     
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    Sorry I disagree.
    The subject is about rape, as serious a subject as anything can be.
    If somebody opens the door, as AGFUNK did with her knowledge of the subject, then my questions were valid.

    AGFUNK should know by now that I would do nothing to hurt her, that I have her best interests at heart, as I have shown by my many posts.

    If I 'pissed her off' I am sorry but sometimes when we are pushed to being 'pissed off' we give more honest answers, as AGFUNK did.
     
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    Justify it however you want.
    You asked her some questions that were inappropriate and too personal. And for what? Gaining better knowledge on the subject of rape play or just for the sake of conversation?
    She opens up about her trauma and you prod her for answers. That's bullshit man.
     
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    I would have described the feelings if asked. It was almost seven years ago. Your question was still out of line. You don't ask a person that was raped that. It ridiculous.
     
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    I think this thread needs to close.
     
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    Couldn't agree more.