[Ask a Girl] Rape / forced fantasy

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  1. Platfrmmules

    Platfrmmules New Member

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    Do many girls have this fantasy or is a guy suggesting it just plain weird and needs to be binned as onto the next elegible guy?

    If you are into it then how far should a guy go - just rough sex, punching and physical pain, hair pulling etc
     
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    Think there was a thread on this recently. It would be interesting if this question was asked of the guy. May give a different perspective to the fantasy.
     
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    Ask away x
     
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    I used to date a girl that was into this. I really freak out and pass. Maybe I'm a little coward, but just to think that she eventually can report me to the police for rape using the bruises and evidence that I "forcefully" had sex with her really scared me. Not my thing really.
     
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    That was why I mentioned the male perspective. This subject has come up before and I responded directly to the OP.

    In an early relationship, a girlfriend had a rape fantasy. She wanted me to do this to her when she was not expecting it. I was not happy about it but for a period of 3 weeks she prepared for it by wearing 'suitable' clothing. Old underwear that could afford to be damaged during the execution of the fantasy. I found it very difficult to do and that is why it took 3 weeks. Eventually, I made an effort but could not go through with it. She realised this during the act and we were both pretty dejected by it.

    I still have pretty disturbing memories of that. Quite vivid.

    So, one male perspective from me.
     
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    This is one of my fetishes, actually it was a paraphilia for me called Biastophilia and was the other way around as in the guy was unwilling.

    The whole point is that your partner is unwilling and does not enjoy it at all which is good to remember for roleplaying, because you cannot rape the willing, they have to be really good at acting! :D

    It can be role played in fun and safe ways obviously. It is role playing = Pretend, not truly physically harming someone and causing injuries o_0.

    Most rape is sexual assault and has nothing to do with physical abuse. If you were roleplaying it, you wouldn't be trying to harm the person, you just want them restrained or trusting you with manipulation which can be done with so many different pretend scenarios that do not involve physical harm or injuries. You can easily role play an unexpected scenario, like surprise her by breaking in her house one night, and just pretend!

    Inflicting pain on someone, or enjoying being physically abused is a sadist or masochist fetish and not somewhere you should go literally. That is not a rape fetish. In fact most sexual abuse happens through manipulation of trust, and mind games and the abuser is someone the person knows, and many other scenarios where the person has not given consent, such as date rape. So roleplaying rape does not have to include actual violence or physically hurting someone. Hell, you could even role play a scenario where your partner pretends to have become unconscious.

    For people with severe masochist fantasies that want you to actually physically hurt them, it can backfire real fast and you have to be cautious about the psychology. It is the thrill of the idea that gets them off, not the actual thing, they get it in their minds that the physical abuse and pain would be pleasant... until it truly happens. Then you have a bad situation on your hands, and you could get in trouble with the law. In my opinion you can never trust that a person will be okay with pain, and if they are you can be sure they have some issues. Either way it is much safer roleplaying things like this without actual force or causing injuries. Roleplaying is after all pretend. And many people get by with roleplaying SnM and Bondage without truly hurting someone and needing to call an ambulance = common sense.
    Like duh! Ohhhh she wants me to use a knife on her. Well use a fake knife. It's not that hard to figure out. Or she wants me to push her down. Well push her down onto something soft... She will get that same thrill, adrenalin and excitement, because that's what the fetish is about.
     
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    Nope never had that fantasy. Had the reality and it's not fun in any way.

    I wonder how many men have a fantasy of being raped/ forced by other men ?
     
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    you would be surprised how many women have this fantasy....its a tough one for most guys...because weve been taught our whole lives how wrong that is to treat women that way......its hard for most of us decent guys to give a girl that fantasy...im trying to work up to it for my gf......
     
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    Just an observation....it seems to me, judging by the many threads you have started here, that you must watch a lot of porn and don't have any idea of what real women are into. Kudos to you for coming here to ask real women, though.
     
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    That's it. I think we are conditioned to be 'respectful' and to seek approval - to some extent - when having sex with a woman. This fantasy turns it on it's head and is quite difficult - at least for me - to carry out.

    I make it clear, that my situation was not simply rough sex......... It was more than that and something I could not fit into. No pun intended, at all!
     
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    I just thought that he is maybe a little strange and wants to get a "girl" that he wants to rape & fist ;)

    Men are from mars, women are from Venus this guys from bloody Pluto :)
     
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    Thanks. I am not strange - just getting everyone's opinion?

    Does it make you strange because you read and reply to these posts?
     
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    Well my opinion is that you are strange and maybe it does make me strange to read your posts.

    As they say there is a little crazy in all of us (some more than others).

    I'm just wondering why you would want to know abound order sex / rape fantasies and "fisting" other than just being curious.
     
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    It's just don't have a partner who is into them so I find out info from the community. Sorry if that sounds strange but if you dot ask then you don't know
     
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    I myself have been raped. Though my husband and I do sometimes roleplay with the whole rape thing. Though it's different for me since when I was raped I was sodomized. I actually quite enjoy it when my husband and I pretend that I'm raping him or that he's raping me. We of course have ground rules to not actually physically harm one another as much to leave bruises and we have a safe word.