Quick Ejaculation

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  1. buzzar

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    Im an 18 year old male, and from when i was 16 years old. I have been noticing that i ejaculate very quickly, like in 1 and half minutes when im masturbating. is this really quick, or is it normal.
    would it affect my sex life when i have sex with a girl, would i climax really quickly. what if I do end up ejaculating in the middle of sex after around 1 or 2 minutes. im going to feel really bad. Also sex for just two minutes, well I would feel embarrassed.
    is ejaculating after 1 and half minutes normal, or not. and will it affect my sex life in the future.
     
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    When you masturbate you are just trying to get off as quick as possible. When you have sex try to focus on her instead of you cock. This way you won't be thinking about popping too soon. If you constantly tell yourself 'don't cum, don't cum, don't cum' then you will cum quick because you're thinking about it. Relax when you do it, take it slow. Starting and stopping isn't bad, teases the girl sometimes. Gets her more wild and likely to be satisfied. Finally, most girls don't expect to cum every single time. It's the process thats important. Make sure to be there and attentitive. Masturbation and sex don't relate in terms of time. They only relate that masturbation will lower your frustration. You're good as long as you don't stress over cumming to quickly.
     
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    hmm the cumming in 1-2 minutes means you have a really vivid imagination.
    I can get myself off that quick as well.

    BUT The more you masturbate the less sensitive your cock may become.
    Therefore sex with a woman may be less satisfying. If you masturbate too
    much (5 times a day) you may just hurt the womans feelings by not being able to cum.

    That being said though it may help if you do masturbate a lot so you wont cum so fast when with a woman.
     
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    At your age, youget turned because of the breeze, because you sneeze, because a girl you like smiles at you or you like the way she dresses, right? That was me at that age so I must be on the mark. Masturbation is to relieve that urge when you don't have a partner, and just to relieve the sexual tension, your hormones are raging so to speak.
    It's normal you will ejaculate soon but things will improve. Also it won't hurt to learn about how to use your PC muscles and delay ejaculation, practice even when masturbating. You can search it online.
    Be patient and persistent with it, make it pleasurable to make it worth your time.
     
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    If you masturbate too much, you will grow hair on the palms of your hands. I have to shave my palms twice a week.
     
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    You don't lose sebsitivty from masturbating and doing it a lot won't help last longer. A hand is not a pussy, different sensation all around.
     
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    okay well maybe.. it's porn related.. if you masturbate to porn too often then "regular" sex becomes mundane in the mind.

    Or could be the tightness of your grip that could make a vagina seem less enjoyable.

    I am just relaying what I have heard that is all.
     
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    I am 33 and I am still very much that way. With a fairly good fantasy or video, I can get off in no time masturbating. Sadly, in my experience, from when I lost my virginity at age 14 up to the last time I had sex it's always been the same deal. I just don't last long. I've never been able to home in on the correct amount of desensitizing sprays or what have you, I always end up too numb to get it up, and thrusting slowly may allow me to go longer, but it doesn't do much for the girl either. I've tried the not thinking about what I'm doing, but it's damn near impossible to not notice the sensation, at least for me. I imagine I'll probably have to go the route of cock rings or something to keep an erection after cumming just so I can be more useful in that arena.

    Oddly, I can last much longer getting oral, or with the girl on top. Go figure.
     
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    How long is long...?? and that's good you can last longer with girl on top!
     
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    Masturbation is totally different to oral, intercourse, and too much may cause problems wi th intercourse it's been said because the guy uses his imagination, movies or pictures - not much different from some women I found out - and the "theory" is that the penis gets used to a certain stimulation some guys have a hard time going without after so much of it.
    Technique could be the thing too, sometimes the mood.
     
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    Long enough to give most girls cock-jaw if I didn't do things to speed it up. It's odd. I love oral, the sensations are incredible, but for whatever reason it doesn't make me cum like pussy or ass does.

    Now I do have to add that I only got oral from my first ex, so it's possible that her lack of BJ experience may have helped, but I couldn't complain, it felt great to me. On the flip, I s'pose it's possible that someone with great knowledge in the technique of oral may very well be able to make me blow pretty quick. But I have yet to experience that.
     
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    If you are continuously stroking it is perfectly normal to cum in 2 minutes or less. Slow down and pause when you get close to orgasm. It is not a race. I am 70 years old and if I am really horny and stroke hard, I can cum in a couple of minutes too. Learn to pace yourself.
     
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    I've always been pretty inconsistent. There are times when I have to stop frequently because I could cum within seconds...other times when I have actually had to fake it to get a break (extremely rare). Generally it usually happens for me long before I would wish it to, so I suppose I'm quicker than most. I can hold it off, but only for so long. Too much masturbation, for me, only takes away my desire.

    So after this embarrassing confession, I suppose my point is some guys are natural porn stars, some are forever destined to be virgin-quick...and about 95% fall somewhere in the middle of that bell curve. Sadly, I suppose I'm closer to the latter than the former, but I am enthusiastic and love foreplay, cunnilingus, massage, touching...all the good stuff that accompanies a good fuck.