So this may sound like a ridiculous story, but it still kind of haunts me. One time about a year and a half ago my ex and I were fooling around. I had to go to the bathroom but at this point we were nearly done, as I had already gone and I was performing oral on her. To my surprise, she flipped around to give me more oral and happened to find me going flaccid. She seemed to take a little offense to this, as if I wasn't turned on by her. It was so embarrassing even when I explained to her what was up. I mean, I was certainly done, but I was still trying to give her another oral chapter before things ended. That said, the bladder walls were pushing harder and I just lost my erection even though I was still heavily turned on. Fast forward, we broke up. I began dating someone new last month. We haven't gotten involved sexually yet but things are going really, really well. I'm not somebody to sleep with someone I'm not deeply involved with so it does make me believe our time will come. Any time I even think about sex, it just makes me think on how much I'll have to concentrate on what's happening and to stay focused, etc. I've even thought about getting some sort of herbal enhancer at the local drug store. I know my issue is entirely mental, but I think if a few rounds go without issue, I'd be okay. Problem is, I don't want to disappoint early on, and the thought of disappointment just makes me nervous. That being said, how do you ladies handle something like this? Do you girls look at a flaccid penis and take that as a playful challenge to get it up? Or do you girls take any sort of offense to it as if your other half isn't turned on to you? I guess my instinct is that ladies will take offense right away, basically like what happened to me earlier on. It's kind of ironic I feel this way, as I (like many males) have a high libido and get turned on a little too easy, if anything. At this point I'm just curious for some female input. Thanks!