Question: Why Cybering?

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  1. Wckd_Beauty

    Wckd_Beauty New Member

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    No i'm not asking to cyber lol

    I was in the personals section of the forum and some of the posts brought this to mind. I personally don't like cybering or approve it anymore. I've tried it and it just seems like a weird waste of time. My question is to those who have done it or currently do it. Why do you like it? Why is it appealing to you? Do you consider it cheating if you have a SO[significant other] in real life?
     
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    Used to years ago. It was anonymous, easy, and a very cheap thrill. The behavior of myself and the online participant served as wank-fodder for my already hyperactive libido.

    I haven't done it in years. I saw more and more opportunities for real interaction and the illicitness of it paled in comparison.

    Cheating? I consider it, yes. But that's just me. Others could just as easily see it as a collaborative erotic fiction.
     
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    I know it's a popular practice, but I don't really do it. I do sometimes chat with an online friend, mostly about day to day things, cut shit and have fun, but not at all in a sexual way. That's the same as how I interact with my local friends.

    If I ever did do cyber sex, I would feel like I was giving out love and affection that's, in my mind, strictly reserved for my wife. She takes all I can give, and returns it, so to give that affection out anywhere else would just be cheating her. It would make me feel sick, and I'd much rather feel good.
     
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    You both have the same opinions I have about it being considered cheating, especially Hard Rocker, you explained it the best as to why it is, at least in my opinion.
     
  5. Puss_in_boots

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    I answered this in another thread Vanja posted about "skype sex" (I guess that's a synonym for cybersex):

    Before I moved in with my boyfriend we had an almost exclusive online/cybering relationship. We lived in two different countries during that time. We started out with just cybering on MSN and YIM, and then began sending SMS/text messages to each other throughout the day. Eventually we decided to step it up a notch and started chatting with one another with a webcam, and then on the phone. It was incredibly awkward at first, and I couldn't believe how shy I felt about showing him my breasts on the webcam, when I didn't seem to have any problem cybering with him. After a while it got to the point where we just had to meet in person, so that's what we did.

    Although neither of us consider cybering to be cheating on one's partner (it's more like enhanced masturbation) we no longer cyber with one another or anyone else.
     
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    When I used to Cyber....(and now I am starting up again since I am over seas ATM and the wife is back in the states), I loved it because looking at pics is one thing...but thats all it is, is a picture that doesnt move...

    When I cyber (or even read erotic stories) my imagination is at work...and the images in my head MOVE...LOL...

    If that made any sense...that why I love it.
     
  7. igor

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    Yes I have done it. We still communicate although it's not as sexual as it once was. When we hooked up we both had needs that weren't being met IRL.
    So we had something in common - a desire for intimacy, not just for sex itself.
    No - neither of us consider it cheating.
     
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    You know what? I just realised I do it all the time. I never really anything out of it. Its just that if I'm talking to a lady online, and sex comes up, the "So what would you do to me?" question usually comes up... and it all goes downhill from there. They always seem to become aroused, or start touching themselves. I honestly just like talking about the female form.
     
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    I've engaged in cyber a time or two. I don't think it's cheating any more than anything else if you don't deceive your SO about it. If you deceive your SO about it, then it's some form of cheating IMO.

    Overall, I think of cyber-sex as just another masturbation or arousal aid, along with porn, erotic stories, toys, strip bars, etc.

    BD
     
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    I used to do it a lot when i was a young teenager. But not anymore.