Question for Bi/Gay guys

Discussion in 'General Sex Discussion' started by wowzer, Jun 1, 2012.

  1. wowzer

    wowzer New Member

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    Why did you decide to become bi/gay?
     
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    still working on that lol
     
  3. LilBAM

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    I can't help but feel it isn't a decision, but it's a natural feeling you have that isn't always explainable. Your body and brain just know what it's attracted to and what it likes. I don't think it's a decision.
     
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    Nobody chooses, you're born that way. You might only fully discover it in later life, but it's never a choice.
     
  5. CreamyJustice

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    sorry to barge in....

    so if you only "discover" it later in life, how do you know it was there all along? Like, I'm sure you dont wake up and just decide, but, how do you know that its not just something that develops as time goes on. Is that not possible?
    I never get how someone can say they were born bisexual or homosexual ( and trust, me, i'm not bashing either one). You don't really express your sexuality until puberty....soooooo, if you haven't done so by then, it just seems to be a development of sorts, not something thats been lying dormant in you since birth. maybe you did decide to try something new and just so happened to like it and it became a permanent part of you. People like what they like, but as people we evolve and change often, so you may now like something you didn't years ago. See where i'm coming from?

    please forgive me if i sound like a douche...not my intention at all....
     
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    Because its amazing having both Ima have my cake n eat it to guy lol
     
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    I was just always so damn curious, so when i finally broke the nerve to try it with my roommate and his gf, BAM i have never been able to look back!! I guess i love to be both dominant and dominated so I need to be bi!!
     
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    I always was at least from puberty on. But because society tells us how wrong it is for a gay man or bi man to be that way, yet encourages women to be bi\lesbian, it wasn't untilk my 20s I started experimenting with guys.

    Society is so hypocritical. you bi girls don't know how easy you have it compared to bi guys.
     
  9. CreamyJustice

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    I appreciate that.

    So answer me this; did they approach you or vice versa?

    Yeah society sucks, lol. For every person who feels alone, there is at least another feeling the same exact way. I don't know why there is a double standard. It probably has to do with omissions. People want to believe that it is weird but its when they find out about someone close to them after so long that they flip out. My friend has a book on sexual psychology that apparently proves that everyone is indeed bisexual. I'm waiting to get my hands on it.
    But my question to you: Did your wife know you were bisexual?
     
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    Well my roomate and I knew each other were bi, we would walk around and chill naked in the dorm all the time. So I guess he was open with his GF about his sexuallity and she was very intrigued bi the idea of seeing us together, but she didnt believe I was also bi. So one night me and him and her had taken a shower together, and she finally broke down and said she wanted to see us together, so we did and she joined in rather quickly afterwards!!

    So to answer your question I guess they approached me.
     
  11. Cappy_Dick

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    Humans are bisexual creatures by nature. A very small amount of people are "wired" as totally straight or gay. Most people fall somewhere in the middle of the Kinsey scale.

    You don't see a lot of men to be openly bi or bi curious, as society, for some reason, automatically labels them gay. I really don't "get" this, as openly bisexual women, in this day and age, are generally considered "cool". It's all in the pressures of modern society.

    The biggest myth is that someone has to be equally attracted to both sexes to be bisexual. A majority of people, whether they'd admit or not, have curiosities about their own sex. Most people have had some level of same sex experience in youth, but outside of the anonymity of places like this, would never admit it. This is sad, because it is perfectly natural and normal.

    Bisexuality was the norm in many, if not all ancient societies, prior to the times of Christianity and Islam.

    Because there's such a stigma with being bi, most men identify with being gay or straight, by which sex they have the stronger attraction to.

    xx
     
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    we were watching porn and jerking off, the next thing I new I was sucking my friend, I still like girls I just like to play with cocks also
     
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    A lot of men have expressed this same sentiment
     
  14. WS4

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    The bi realization happened in my teens couple different guys I knew at various times out partying and just ended up giving some hand and head. Graduated got married had to put that side away my work environments would not put up with some one with that freedom of expression. I'm older now and the urge is back hard no one to play with. As a side note I grew up in a farming area you were more. Likely to catch a young male messing with live stock we caught a few not my thing rather have a guy suck me off than fuck a pony.
     
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    Became Bi when my wife and I started sharing our bed with other couples
     
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    Does that make you bi or just enjoy sex with men?
     
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    was just always more attracted to other women,
    I really don't believe I was born this way, I just prefer to be with other women over men.
     
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    Never been with another guy.... never really seen one that I'd do anything with and never had the opportunity or THAT big of a desire.... but if it cam around to it, not sure I'd turn it down.
     
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    this
     
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    We have sex with other couples I enjoy that but hooking up with a buddy for a after noon getting head makes me bi