question about getting off (female)

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  1. smiley717

    smiley717 New Member

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    sometimes it's enough just to use my hands on my clit

    but sometimes it only gives me really small orgasms and i give myself 4 and still doesn't satisfy me

    i have a vibrator (standard size) but it's not a dildo

    i don't want to cash out money for a vibrating dildo. even though that would give me big orgasms...

    i mean what else can i do? i was thinking using the vibrator on my clit then a bunch of pens bundled together (ghetto version) going in and out

    what else can i do? any suggestion? i have a bf but he doesn't live with me
     
  2. boobjob

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    Since no ladies answered. I will give it a go.

    You may have more of a mental issue than a physical issue. Fantasy is very important to satisfying masturbation. Try reading some stories in the erotic lit section. Take your time, don't rush things. Focus on other parts of your body as well. Rub yours tits while you are reading. If they are big enough suck on your nipples and imagine your bf is pleasuring you. Focus on the good feelings as opposed to just the orgasm. When you get close to orgasm back off for a little while to build the pressure insaide you. Stay away from your clit until you are aching to touch it. Take your time and enjoy.
     
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    Boobjob may be right here. If you are worrying about this and you are becoming stressed about it, you will react physically and may find orgasms more difficult to achieve.

    Relax, get in the mood. Do it when you feel aroused. Don't put it off. Use porn....if you require. Use variety.

    But mianly, try not to stress about it. Much of this is to do with the mind rather than the body.
     
  4. oldman

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    I would invest in the biggest dido they sell on the market get extra batterys .
    or let that BF move in so he can help with this more .
    personally i like smaller tits i think big tits are ugly.
     
  5. wetness1

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    Buy a nice big cucumber :D
     
  6. winterhaven

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    You may try a water vaginal massage in the tub. you get the water coming from the tub at the right temperature and slide your sex under the water flow. Let the water spill over the right place on your vagina until you reach orgams. My GF has screaming orgasms as I support her back while she enjoys.
     
  7. Dragon_Fire

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    I agree with this, fantasy is the most important factor when I'm stimulating myself, although sucking my own boobs is only done for my partners benefit - I don't enjoy it by myself.
     
  8. 12barblues

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    oo..oo...oooo!!! i got this one! i got it! i know the answer...here's what you do....go to the liquor store and pick up a big fat bottle of Jack...take it home and drink at least half of it (preferably , on an empty stomach) then just as the room begins to spin, stagger over and put on a live recording of "The Doors" live in concert (as loud as it will go..) and sing along with Jim at the top of your lungs...until your vocal chords are shot and you actually start to sound like Jim..(this is good for your "chi"...) then...ummmmm....what's the question again?...oh yeah, orgasms....well, i guess i'm not really sure if this will help with orgasms but it pretty much cures all other ills...and the next several hours that you spend wrapped around the toilet vomiting profusely will help to clear your mind , and prepare you for what lies ahead in life......my methods are unorthodox, but effective....

    P.S. dont ask me how i know any of this....thanks.
     
  9. Dragon_Fire

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    Excellent advice. :lol
     
  10. Splendid_Thoughts

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    You're on a roll 12BB...I've missed you around here! :)
     
  11. Barbwire

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    I second that emotion.
     
  12. Lover4You

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    Take yur time. Don't try to rush to orgasm. Try experimenting w different ways of touching yourself. Find yur gspot. Make it special for you like candles or music. There's alot of options. You may just be getting bored w yur regular routine. Helps me not to even start until I've got myself super horny.