Q o t d - co-ed sleepover - middle school

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  1. HotForHoney

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    Radio again: would you let your 13-14 year old daughter go to a co-ed sleepover?

    They are all "good kids" and you know the parents?
     
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    Humm NO!

     
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    I wouldn't either. Hormones are raging and kids can be sneaky.
     
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    Why would a co-ed sleepover for 13-year-olds be happening? What would be the occasion? Does this kind of thing happen? I never got invited to one or heard about one.
     
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    NFW!
    There are going to be boys sniffing around and chances are older ones!
     
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    I went to more than a few of these - actually happened a lot through my age 12-18 years. Even when we weren't "all good kids" or there was a responsible adult present it happened. You'd be surprised how little actually ended up happening, even when more brazen and "naughty" individuals were present. Besides, to quote Dr Ian Malcolm, "Life -- ah, ah -- finds a way" if something is going to happen then it will happen regardless.
     
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    Absolutely not. I understand that life happens, but I'm not going to encourage it.
     
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    Good kids .....
    Peer pressure, dares, BUT they are good kids. Not unless there are chaperones and things are well looked after and organized.
     
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    Nope, but like 10_3XL said they will find away but that seems to be making it easier.
     
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    I wonder if girls were upstairs and guys were in the basement or how it went or if that changes anything.
     
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    I think that it might change things if the parents stayed awake to monitor the situation. Otherwise, it might help but there could still be problems.
     
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    In my experience (which could have been entirely unique and out of the ordinary):
    We were always in the same room; often sharing space and in direct contact on the floor/couch/wherever. Despite the general consensus that teenagers have no self-control, my group and I always had remarkable restraint. We generally kept our hands to ourselves, and what "naughtiness" that did take place was never more than simple exploration and curiosity -- a lot of "Oh! What does this button do?" but very rarely anything more "in depth." The times that did happen were usually when two people were NOT there in the group and were on their own -- in a group setting there were too many other distractions.
     
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    One post you are shallow, another "in depth".... Or was that just your friends?
     
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    I don't see an issue with it, when I was a teenager we used to do the same thing with co-ed sleepovers. Nothing ever happend, it was more of watching movies / talking / music. I think it becomes more an issue when alcohol is involved, but that didn't start till 15 or 16 here.

    By the way there was always both parents at home during the night.
     
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    I guess I hosted a few coed sleepovers for various reason. The first didn't know at the time it was coed until a boy and his mother showed up at the door I was a little Suprised. It turn out fine.
    Oh and the boys father is the school Principle :)
    Another I was leaving early with a group of kids for a day trip, basement door was open kids when to sleep.
    Another time a male friend who was having difficulties at home spend three night on my daughter floor, he's gay.
    So it's not always a cut and dried yes or no.
     
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    Oh, I was always the shallow type. I never got in depth with anyone until I was out of school and on my own. :)
     
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    I wouldn't mind as long as the parents were home.
     
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    What teenagers get up to!
    Mine may seem like an ancient tale but still it serves it's purpose.
    I attended a co-ed boarding high school and there had the most intense and arguably best few years of my life.
    On Saturday nights we used to go to the drive-in theatre (older folks will remember those hellcion days [actually nights] when you drove your Mini Cooper S to this big open wavy parking lot facing a giant screen and hung a monster crackly speaker through the window) but get this; in a fucking school bus!
    Loaded with 40 or so kids of both sexes with blankets!
    The bus would park side on, three or four speakers poked through the sliding windows, kids would rush to the kiosk for drinks and nibbles then back onto the bus and paired up cuddle under said blankets.
    Nobody saw the movie or cared less, the windows would fog up and the atmosphere reek of pussy fumes but everyone had a fabulous time.
    Some lads would have crusty jeans and some young ladies lost their nickers but hey it was sooo much fun!
    Nobody ever got pregnant but many boys went to bed sucking or sniffing their various digits and many including myself experienced nocturnal emissions thereafter.
    The bus driver would always absent himself, probably had a mistress parked at the back but he was without doubt the greatest hero to all of us kids. I wonder what he did with all those "Wet Check" used condoms dumped under the seats?
    Oh boy those were the good old days!
     
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    UPDATE: Dad called the radio show. Daughter usually has to be home at 10:00. They let her stay at the party until 11:30. Another parent did the same thing.
     
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