Women aren't necessarily wet at the moment intimacy is initiated but the touching, the kissing, the foreplay, the right words spoken all work to arouse her and bring her to that point of feeling the juices flow, but it has been more than a singular occurrence in my sex life that at the moment a woman initiates a sexual encounter she expects the mere expression of her interest in sex to bring me to a throbbing erection. There has been more than one woman that has undressed me to discover (oh my god) that my cock isn't hard and on standby for them. They see the flaccid state or the in-progress erection and instantly assume that I'm not interested in sex. Is this school of thought prevalent? Do you take the time to arouse your man or give up when he's not somehow magically already there?