Pussy Preference and confusion

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  1. TheDude311

    TheDude311 New Member

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    Is it normal to have an extremely limited pussy preference and still be

    straight?

    ok I'll back up I've been having worries for over a year I might be gay. I'll try and skim over the details as best i can.I have always dreamed about being with a woman, settling down having kids the 9 yards. But when I was 14 I would notice guys and it would make me worry. I would picture sex with them or my friends automatically with no sexual arousal. Anyway this went on till I was 18 then for 7 blissfull years I didn't worry about. and when i didn't worry about it I didn't notice guys hardly ever, and when I did, I would just say to myself, "well if u remember him in hr then will talk." And I never did. I'd remember it after I'd jacked off to some lessy porn or when I was excited over a msg I had received from a cute girl. I thought i was done with this crap.

    But then a little over a year ago my mom told me my cousin was gay. Welp from then on I started thinking about my self being gay and and gay sex all of the time. I never got rly aroused by it but my mind kept telling me i liked it so I've thought what if I'm repressed? I'd jack off to lessy porn or women and the voice in my head would say ur in denial buddy. For the most part it will seem like simple anxiety to alot of u. and after comming here last night I would be inclined to agree. But that still doesn't change the fact that I've never been aroused by looking at pictures of most pussy and just more recently I've been unable to jack off to lessy porn. alot of the pussy isn't appealing to me I would like to believe it's mental since all I've ever done is jack off to women and lessy but who knows? Can a man really be straight and not care for most pussy?
     
  2. lbushwalker

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    Hey TD,
    Stop over-analysing stuff.
    Maybe you are bi; then so what and why not hey?
    Pussy pics don't usually do anything for me either unless I see an interesting face and reasonable honest body attached to it and dude I only go for females but in a rather big way!
     
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    I don't know some pussies look fantastic, some look like a car wreck.

    How do you feel when you see pics of cocks? I can't stand them myself but if you do like what your looking at then maybe you may be bi.

    Don't try and label yourself though buddy, what will be will be.
     
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    Maybe the label "bisexual" seems derogatory to a lot of men, and perhaps society has turned it into something unappealing with propaganda which is just not fair. It does not matter what your preferences are, we all have our natural attractions and it's a shame that so many people are worried about this and beating themselves up about it.
    Almost all humans are bisexual to a certain degree, it is normal.

    A man can be into women and not care for most pussy, because pussy is just pussy and not all pussy is that great. But if a man is thinking of men then he is a little bisexual, and there is nothing wrong with that. It doesn't mean you have to choose between one or the other, bisexual means you can have some of both worlds if you so desire. It doesn't mean you like women any less, it just means you may also like men to a certain extent. Many people that are bisexual have one preference that outweighs the other. In your case you probably prefer women.
     
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    I think you are worrying to much , chill enjoy your friendships and your life. As for being one or the other or both , does it matter if your in a relationship and happy ? In time your life may change and you have a gay friendship but focus on where you are now and relax with it. Like Thunder says we are all Bi to some degree so chill and be cool .... Lifes good enjoy the future will take care of itself bud.
     
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    I perfer her to have a large labia. It's the most arousing. smaller labia is less arousing.


    I remember a video on you tube that some women had some size reduction to her labia. It looked like a post op tras. total turn off
     
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    Yes. I personally like to see pussy, but not the way it is shown in many magazines, with the camera lens staring straight into it. Other guys may be more focused on other parts of the body or less interested in random nude girls, preferring to see only the ones that matter to them. Finally, some straight guys are not that interested in the female body at all, or very little, sort of like many women (i.e. they may be head of heels for a special someone, but seeing that person naked is still not necessarily a big turn-on. It's all about context)

    Guys, more than women, tend to be more interested in details about the body of the opposite sex, but there is so much variation that practically no-one is completely "normal". But then, who wants to be completely average anyway?
     
  8. TheDude311

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    Thx guys, this place seems like a wonderful community. I wish I found it sooner then maybe I'd be better off today lol. To answer a question. no I don't find cocks attractive. In fact in years past when I wasn't worried about this shit I would down right eeek at a pic of a cock, now it's just there. Like i was looking at few and it was like meh not rly. u knw? But in the back of my mind the evil me will be like, "no u dnt like cocks nowww, but you good later." It's silly yah. But that what it's like. Like I'm afraid I could someday loose my heterosexuality. I'm really not a dumb guy". I know that's impossible. I've told myself many logical theories, certainly more logical then the possibility of me loosing my hetroness. I've said Dude this is your MO man u constantly sabotage yourself in to believing shit that isn't true. But it doesn't work. I tell myself any logic thing that therapist might theorize, but it doesn't work. And quite frankly, right now it does feel like of loosing my hetro.

    It's anxiety i know. But still, a part of me is saying what if ur? it's more logical to assume it's anxiety then anything else, it can make u limp feel sick whatever. It's logical but I wonder assume if I am.

    To add context to the situation. It has been very hard for me to get girls throughout my life. In fact I've only had one GF and she's not even from my home country. It's only been in the last year that I've actually had any luck with women. So now it's like.. wow wouldn't it be terrible if I realized I was gay? My whole life my biggest dream has been to settle down with a woman and now that having some luck I realize I'm gay. So that would be a pretty big life changer u know? I've never been able to picture myself with a hubby, it just doesn't fit for me. Don't ask me why that fact alone hasn't been able to silence my doubts lol. I'm just crazy I guess hahaha.

    U all dnt need to say anything, idk what else u could say really. I just needed to get this shit off my chest. thx all :-*

    also if there's anyone who'd like to chat, or offer any insite. Feel free to hit me up thx.