PROUD to be Virgin

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  1. grissom_pt

    grissom_pt New Member

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    hi ppl

    I'm noticing that ppl around me are losing their virginity earlier and earlier. I'm an 18-year-old boy and I contact everyday with ppl younger than me that already have an active sexual life.

    Man, this doesn't seem right to me. Why are ppl such in an hurry to experience sex? I'm virgin, ya, i don't know if it feels good. But it's such a risk to take. I'm not only talking about diseases, pregnancy... there's the emotional part, I guess... Youngsters are offering something so intimate, maybe to someone unworthy of trust, who knows. But they don't even think about it. And they end up hurt, lots and lots of times.

    That's why I'm apologist of a little more waiting. I can say I'm virgin by option, and I'm proud of it. What I do wanna know is if you ppl agree with me or not. And I wanna find more ppl PROUD of their virginity :brow
     
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    and you should be proud...
    not many people are by our age.... (18)
    spec boys tbh...
    Wish i waited actually... but i love my current boyfriend now and hes magically in bed.
     
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    Sure i agree.. I'm 18 and I started having sex with my current girlfriend when we were 18.. and we've been together for around a year now, and our relationship is just getting better and better by the day. I think if you're with the right person, sex is another healthy and improving factor to your relationship.. if it's your first time and its not someone like that.. then you're either going to be hurt right after the occurrence, or you're going to be hurting looking back on that occurrence wishing you had it with someone meaningful.
    I lost my virginity one drunken night to some girl, very hot girl, but i'd take that back any day. I don't like to think of it as counting, seeing how we were drunk and I was in there all for about a minute before we were like, let's do this tomorrow b/c we were about to pass out. I look back on that day with regret because my girlfriend lost her virginity to me, and i want to say i lost it to her, i don't know if the drunken incident counts, but since i was in her.. i think it does.
     
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    Yes that would count, i lost mine at 11 years old....i loved that time, but in way i wish i had waited longer.
     
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    Oh yeah...the topic is becoming constructive ;)

    I didn't thought about this initially, but let me ask your opinion: let's imagine a couple, both 16 years-aged. They have a very good relationship, they love each other and they know each other well. Should they start their sexual life? On one hand, there’s their trust, their attachment, their will to show love to the partner. On the other hand, they are only 16 years old! :ugh

    post your opinion, please:)
     
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    I will try to answer that question and it's not an easy question,
    I think it is your decision to make in life.
    If you have someone that you feel comfortable with
    and She is OK with it and You feel that you want to
    then (This is only me speaking) go ahead. If you wait
    another year its one year of your life that you wont have sex.
    And if done right sex can be one of the most beautiful and
    enjoyable thing that you will ever do.
    On the other hand if you are not ready or She is not ready
    for a sex life you may regret all your life.
    For me I started at 13 and it has been great, But I know it
    doesn't work that well for everyone.

    Hiker:sf
     
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    looool... you misunderstood me, bighiker. I wasn't talking about me, didn't you read the first post on the topic? i was just posting an example. for me, i'm still waiting, i haven't found the right person yet and i'm not looking for sex at the time, I praise my virginity a lot, in case you haven't noticed xD. oh, and i'm really 18 years old.

    thanks for your opinion, nevertheless ;) I don't know if I agree with it or not, I'm still trying to build mine.

    greets
     
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    No i dont think I missed anything. So read your own post again.

    So NO I did not totally agree with you.

    Hiker
     
  9. Kronnie

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    we are each of us different , so you will find it difficult to assatain what route is best for you, by asking many different people, most people know when it is time for them , or at least when they may feel it is time for them to move into the sexual era of their lives.

    In time you to will become a part of the sexual ways of life and when that time comes i hope you look back at you being a virgin as a good time, but as a far better time after you found the right lady to be with in a sexualy explicit way. :)
     
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    Whatever makes you happy. What seems right to you, may not to someone else. Just remember: it does not make that person bad because they chose to or not to do something. If it makes you happy, more power to you!
     
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    I for one see no problem in saying that you're a virgin. I myself am a virgin, and am turning 18 soon. I just haven't met a girl I've really fallen for. Quite frankly, I find the whole thing of sex to be somewhat glorified. It's portrayed as just something to do with whomever you're dating. I see it as something completely different, you have to have a lasting connection, it is not something casual.

    To be honest, I know if I'm romantic or lost in idealism, but I'd like to be with a person whoever I end up having sex with for a long time. I'm that committed, maybe even a little old fashioned but I'd love to find a soul mate, and I just might wait until I do. I don't do well with good byes or whatnot, and I was really crushed when somebody I knew moved away, so I'd be a total wreck if I went through casual dating on a regular basis. Not that I would anyway, I'm really picky on top of my already rigid romanticism.
     
  12. Kronnie

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    There is nothing wrong with being a virgin thats true, ther is nothing wrong wit hwaiting untill you think you have or do find the right person.

    but there is also nothing wrong with people that wish casual relationships.

    We all have our own preferences no ones is wrong , as it is what is right for the individual.
     
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    I couldn't wait to lose my virginity, I was ripe and ready to get in among the girls and satisfy as many as possible as quickly as possible!
    No regrets so far about anything, my life was a good ride. (scuse the pun)

    Do your own thing and be happy Grissom.
    Just hope you don't look back on your life when you get older and wish you'd had more sex!
     
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    I lost mine at quite an early age....i dont regret it though!

    Having said that, I would hate for my son to lose his too early
    although of course that is his choice....

    Eleven Kronnie? Oh wow that is only just over two years older
    than our son...

    NO NO NO NO NO NO NO.........:(

    Of course there is nothing I can do to stop him and he is already
    such a very romantic boy......:)
     
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    My son was a virgin, and married a virgin. They were proud of it when they were teens - though, like yourself, they felt they always had to 'explain' their decision - as if there was something 'wrong' with them.

    Their sex life is vibrant and exciting and wild (yes, they DO talk to us about it :lol ) - so it really has nothing to do with 'learning all the tricks' before engaging in a long term relationship.

    You are making an intelligent, well-thought-out decision. One that will effect the rest of your life (and your future spouse). It's not easy to go against the flow of one's peers, especially in your younger years. To stick to your convictions speaks volumes to your character!
     
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    When you said in your opening topic:

    Raging hormones in late teen men are sufficient alone to make them want sex big time.

    However, you appear to display a respectful attitude, much more mature than of your young age.

    Folks that have first sex early just because they think that they should, quite often will regret that.

    Folks should have first sex when both partners are ready for that step. Whether that be at the age of 18 or 28 or above doesn't matter too much.

    What matters is that the individual is ready for it and with the person they feel comfortable with to share that special experience.

    I don't really like the expression "Being proud of being a virgin."

    It would be better said, "I'll do it when I am ready - regardless of peer pressure."
     
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    Virgin here

    I'm also a virgin. Just putting that out there. However, I almost don't feel like it, I look at porn and masturbate and have so many dirty thoughts. But of course, I have my reasons for waiting. I don't think there's anything wrong with people around my age being virgins.
     
  18. Kronnie

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    Yeah i know , i was a very early devoloper Scorp. puberty had already kicked in by then, and hormones were flying around , that was the year i first used my fingers tongue and penis.
    I was kind of big back then especaily for an 11 year old.

    I hope your son doesnt , i got pulled into it by an older female at the time.
     
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    how old was she? who would wanna do an 11 year old? :eek
     
  20. Kronnie

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    She was 15 years old.