Hi all... I suppose this question is mainly for the guys. I am interested in trying prostate massage/anal play with hubby. Mainly because I think he'd really enjoy it, once he tried it, lol. Perhaps because the thought of getting fucked in the arse is such a turn on for me, (although I've not done it yet, but I digress...) In any case, I've mentioned it to him once, and he said something to the effect of, "I don't think so, I had my dr. do prostate massage once, and it was NOT a turn on" He does have chronic prostate problems/infections and his prostate is a wee bit enlarged. This is very rare, considering he is very healthy/athletic, surfs and all, and is only 32, but we've been dealing with it for a few years now. My main concern is that I don't want to do any damage or pain. I wa under the understanding that if you had prostate issues, prostate massage was actually recommended, but please correct me if I'm wrong. I do realize that there is a difference betwwen a medical professional doing p massage and me sticking my finger up his butt, lol... but how much difference? Also, if he expressed a *dislike* of the idea, should I just perish the thought? I am thinking that there are a few issues at play here, 1. his ongoing prostate problems and 2. his unspoken, but well known to me, fear that if he likes something in his ass, he must have gay tendencies, which is ludicrous. Should I just slip a well-lubed finger in right before he comes when I'm sucking him off? Or go even slower than that? (or not at all?) HELP!