Problem...please help

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  1. shy_guy

    shy_guy New Member

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    My girlfriend is now 20 years old, and has never experienced an orgasm. She has never masturbated, and every time I try (oral, fingering), she gets a sharp pain that either starts in her leg or her feet. This causes her a great deal of pain and I immediately stop upon her request. I have tried different techniques including reposition her, or her legs. I know there is no pressure for her to have an orgasm, its just that I have never had a problem in the past with oral techniques, or fingering. I would like to be able to give her an orgasm because she has no problems with me. I have never been one to receive without giving.

    Anybody ever have the same problem? Or that could offer any advice?

    Anything is appreciated...thanks in advance!
     
  2. anynamewilldo

    anynamewilldo New Member

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    Well if there is any kind of pain, I would recommend seeing a doctor as that is not normal.

    But anyway, I have never EVER been able to orgasm from oral or fingering from a man. In fact, I wasn't able to orgasm in the "missionary" position for quite some time. I had to be on top if I wanted to orgasm. With my current boyfriend, this is still the case. As for masturbating, I think I gave it a few feeble attempts when I was younger but never actually orgasmed from it until my early 20's. And I was sexually active at a young age (12). The ONLY way I can orgasm from masturbation is with a vibrator and porn.

    Suggest masturbation with a vibrator (maybe porn depending on how she feels about it....I used to despise it) but have her do it alone. I have been with my guy for 5 years and deeply in love with him but I can not orgasm while masturbating in front of him. (Though he does not know about my little porn habit so that may be why).

    If she can achieve an orgasm by herself, then it is time to do it together. I would skip the oral/fingering (unless she says it feels good). Personally, I really enjoy giving head and this gets me in the mood. I let him get on top for awhile, which really doesn't do anything for me but he likes it, and then when I am ready, I jump on top. Good luck
     
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    I think she should see a doctor.
     
  4. bighiker2003

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    Her pain may be from Her closing up unconsiously.
    or maybe she still has a partial hymen, I doubt that a Doctor is needed
    Just one good fucking may stop the problem as all Women have pain
    their first time.
    Also I may ask are you properly preparing her for sex, Is she totally hot and wet
    or are you just doing it dry, Making love includes a lot of kissing petting and so
    on Not just fucking.

    Hiker
     
  5. FireGuy

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    I think she needs to relax a little, and maybe you need to work on your technique.

    Try to insert a finger or two, with your palm up, simple make a "come here" motion with your fingers, shouldn't take much more than that.

    If pain continues then she should consult her OBGYN for advice.