Problem Finishing Off

Discussion in 'Sex and Relationships' started by steveo5555, Dec 4, 2010.

  1. steveo5555

    steveo5555 New Member

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    Ok, so my first post. Let me give some background about the issue.
    I am 21 and was a virgin up until I starting dating this girl and after waiting a few weeks I lost it. I love her and think she is absolutely beautiful.

    I can get rock hard and turned on by her. And I can go for 30-60mins with no problem. She says she has never had such intense orgasm's like she has had with me. However, I have the hardest time ejaculating with or without the condom. I can pre-cum and that is it. We have maybe had sex 20 times so far and I only ejaculated 1 time. I can get myself to ejaculate after watching a lot of porn but not with my girlfriend. Prior to loosing my virginity I watched porn.

    I also take a few medications that could be putting me at a disadvantage. I take 10mg of adderall, 200mg of zoloft, and 0.5mg of klonopin (as needed). All of these have sexual problems as a side affect.

    So my girlfriend gets really upset that I cannot ejaculate in the condom while its in her. I even showed her this website with a post about performance anxiety.

    What can I do to fix my issue??
     
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    johndeeregirl New Member

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    relax.. don't focus so much on ejaculating and it will happen

    it sounds as though it's a combination of performance anxiety and the medications.. try having sex before you take your meds? before you screw with the time you take them, talk to your doctor first (some meds may have a reduced effect or not work if you take them before bed instead of when you get up - VERY important about the zoloft.. from my experience, that can have some major side effects)
     
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    What he says is clearly one of the side effects of watching too much porn.


    Stop watching porn.
     
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    i had that same problem when i was 18 it would take for ever and i wouldnt cum, we would have to stop for me to jack my self off to the point were i was about to blow. i didnt understand it either....until i talked about it with my mom...yes my mother...and she told maybe i dont love her enough to be ready or maybe it was the thought of her family getting home in any moment that wouldnt let me relax. i told my self that i did love her, but it never worked and i also had a porn obsession. so i stopped masturbating to porn for about almost two months, it felt quite horrible but after plenty of dinner and a movie dates my feelings i thought i had for her started to become true.then out of no where we did it and bam i came and she finshed at the same time probably one of the best orgasms weve had together..

    i dont know if you think the same way, but all the porn created a sad picture in my head that i expected and she couldnt live up to it....maybe you need to cut off the porn or masturbating and spend more time with her..... or like johndeergirl said talk to your doctor...
     
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    Transition out of it - cut down on the porn or have her watch some with you? How about doing some video yourself while the two of you fuck, like you are both doing a porno movie? Cut down on the porn and ramp up with your woman.
     
  6. HardRocker

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    A vagina hasn't got nearly the grip your hand does, so maybe you're just not used to the lighter touch. Also your whole body and mind is active with a woman instead of all the focus being on leering at images and pumping the pork, so there's much more going on than you're used to.

    I agree with those that said to lay off the porn, and hopefully that will help decrease how much you feel the urge to jack off. If you hadn't mentioned the meds, I would say you'll probably be cured in a couple of weeks or a month, but definitely discuss that with the Doc.
     
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    take a break dude .. you are just wasting yourself this way
     
  8. Dragon_Fire

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    I'm thinking more along the same lines as JDG. I would look into another anti-depressant. Zoloft is very well known for affecting sexual performance. I don't know anything about the other medications you're on.
     
  9. steveo5555

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    Ok, so I haven't watched porn in 5 days. Talked to my doctor and she said Zoloft has a high chance of sexual side effects like 38% chance. However, so far its the only anti depressent that has worked. She suggested try taking some Klonopin (stronger than Xanax) an hour or so prior to sex, to relax me. I'll try it and update back. Any other suggestions or anyone else have this problem from Zoloft or porn?
     
  10. HardRocker

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    Maybe it would be safer for us not to mix our advice with the doctor's. I think, stick to her plan long enough to see if it works and, if necessary, we can brainstorm later after you update us on the results of the current plan.