Problem being on top

Discussion in 'Sex and Relationships' started by Wycked Dyzzie, Aug 30, 2007.

  1. Wycked Dyzzie

    Wycked Dyzzie New Member

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    I've been with my boyfriend for 11 months now, he is my 1st partner and we do have an incredible sex life but just one problem i cant seem to get a rhythm of being on top. And it does feel really good for both of us and i do want to get better at it. Do you have any suggestions?
     
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    Wisdom from an old teacher of mine. Practice practice practice.
     
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    LOL. Beat me to it!


    Wycked, what do you mean by 'in rhythm'?

    If you're on top, just get him to lay there and not thrust back. That way, you're driving, making the rhythm, whatever it is, and he can join in once he gets the beat, so to speak. Kinda like dancing. Very much like dancing.

    Flip side is you just hover, you hold still, and let him work you and you either jump in when you're feeling it or just let him go.

    As Buf said, practice! :lol
     
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    Its all in the hips. A old GF of mine used to have a song she moved to and it worked for her. But you could always let the man do it for you. What I mean is have his hands on your hips and let him dictate the movement you do.

    BTW Buf is absolutely right. PRACTICE!
     
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    Just slow down and grind together instead
    of pumping as hard as you can.

    Hiker
     
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    its more grinding than up and down
     
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    If you crouch so you're straight up and down (legs parted, ankles to either side of his hips) it looks like the rhythm would be simpler, and you're also more open to clitoral stimulation ;)

    You can also get more in you like that
     
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    i need help in this area too. i wish they had 'dick-riding practice' machines that you could practice on til you got it just right and then be perfect for whoever you did it with.
     
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    That just sounds really funny but practicing real life is the only way to get really good at it. I'm sure your bf won't mind. I wouldn't.
     
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    I'll offer to stand in until one of those machines are invented ;)
     
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    You need to find out what movement feels best for him and you...
    I mean don't think you have to cowgirl like everyone else...
    If you wanna bounce then slide then do tht or if you just wanna bounce... lol

    I usually have my hands by his head and make the bed make me bounce on him... he loves it
    but when im tired i just rock back and forth... untill he helps me bounce again

    another way is when i have on foot on the floor it gives me more power to bounce slower.
    ^_^
     
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    If you lean forward he can lead the thrusting himself if that works.
     
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    that makes me multi orgasm.