premature ejacutation?

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  1. Hero0fDaHouse

    Hero0fDaHouse New Member

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    ok, i'm 19 and i'm a virgin. i haven't had any kind of sex with a girl. i haven't even gotten intimate with a girl yet. but when i masturbate, if i'm turned on, it usually doesnt take long at all to reach orgasm. like, if i was watching a sexy porn video and masturbatng to it, it could take me like a minute to orgasm.

    the thing is, i can't imagine being able to hold it if i'm actually getting a blowjob or having intercourse. i can imagine myself reaching orgasm in a few seconds. is this normal for a virgin or do i have premature ejaculation? how do i get over this problem?
     
  2. Skeptix

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    practice practice practice!

    seriously...your first times will just be that way. it is for most guys. condoms do help desensitize you...they even make some (Trojan "Extended Pleasure" brand) that're supposed to help prolong it. but I really just think it's a rite of passage that most guys have to go through...and if you're ready to go again shortly after the first time, you'll discover you will last longer. it's a totally different sensation from using your hand...even with lube. you might find it happens before you're fully inside...or you may surprise yourself by lasting several minutes.

    there are ways to help your stamina and keep yourself from cumming too soon...kegel exercises, masturbation, the on/off method during sex (pulling out or stopping or slowing down before the "point of no return"...)...and i'm sure there are other suggestions out there.
     
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    I would not be too worried, everyone is pretty nervous at first and usually that means it will be a short experience. but like Skeptix said just practice and it will keep getting better
     
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    yorkiesmurf New Member

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    Reality and porn videos are two quite different things. In porn videos the guy can appear to last for a half hour or more. That is because of fancy editing and retakes. Most men will usually cum withing 30 seconds to 2 minutes of penetration. This means it is necessary to make sure your partner is sufficiently aroused and you are enjoying the experience. Lasting power is the last thing you should worry about.
     
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    I agree with skeptix, with experience you'll last longer because it won't be new after a while. Condoms can also help. A strange fact is most guys can probably masturbate themselves to orgasm faster then sex anyway.
     
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    Yea as above. At first you probably will cum quickly. Fuck, it wasn't until my SEVENTH time that I didn't spoof early. Now I'm totally fine though. So if at first you don't succeed...