okay, it started out innocently enough. we had great sex to begin with (except for the first time, it was my first time in 2 years lol). we went through some relationship problems for awhile, and got over those. well after those problems occoured i had a premature ejaculation problem. long story short, we got into a big fight, i told her i was always mad at her because she refuses to have sex with me, and she said "i doesnt do anything for me, it sucks, theres no reason in me gettin all worked up and nothing happens" (nothing happens b/c i cum within about 3 minutes of sex if im lucky). we used to go for an hour or more if she wanted. i used to be in total control. we used ot have sex 3-4 times a night, now its about once every 2 weeks if im lucky. i have tried the damned numbing creams/sprays/condoms. i have scoured the internet. nothing helps please help me as i love this girl but the problems im having are ruining our relationship. obviously im 23 yrs old im gonna be grumpy about not getting any with a girl i have been wiht for over a year. and i understand sex doesnt happen as often as it did in a relationships beginnings, but i mean come on i cant go on without sex like this. and its obviously damaging our relationship. PLEASE HELP ME!