Pornography concerns

Discussion in 'Sexual Foreplay and Techniques' started by Logger, Apr 11, 2016.

  1. Logger

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    I read an article in a newspaper that reported that some studies showed a coincidence of disrespect for women, and enjoyment of pornography.

    I enjoy pornography, but I try to be respectful to my wife, and women in general.

    The studies show an increased tendency among men who use porn for more time, to be more susceptible to assault crimes against women.

    I personally find that porn get me more hopped up, the longer I watch porn. But I try to avoid porn, if I think my wife might not be in the mood, or might want to stop me from self-gratification, if she is not in the mood.

    Perhaps the problem with porn is that guys use porn, when they have no constructive outlet, like being unable to have a place to masturbate privately, or in supportive company.

    I had a girl friend, years ago, who really felt upset if I would start to masturbate, when she was not in the mood.

    There may be better ways to handle porn, but the problem I see is in a lack of privacy, or lack of support for love or masturbation, but not a problem with Porn, itself.

    Hope more women today are more understanding of men desiring to masturbate, occasionally at inconvenient times. Sometime Porn may be part of the sequence.

    The recent studies cited by the article do not really show that Porn causes crime against women. But I have heard of some women who report experiencing crime, for which porn was a part of the sequence for the man. So I mention related issues, like masturbation privacy, as one way, we can help keep porn from becoming a problem.

    Right-Wing Holy-Rollers are sometimes difficult to calm down. Perhaps the problem is not realy with porn, but the problem is with people who make it difficult to find a good place to masturbate.



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    One factor I did not realize when I was younger, is that satisfaction in masturbation can be increased by movement of the hips before and during climax.

    Tokyo has Rent-A-Doll parlors, that are popular. Maybe because Japanese homes are not designed for private masturbation. But crime in Japan is low. Using dolls involves hip gyrations I owned a doll, years ago, and I noticed that gyrations of my hips deepened my sexual satisfaction.

    So the idea that porn, is a source of crime, seems very incomplete. Masturbation and masturbation with the gyration of hips, can be significantly increased in the US, instead of targeting porn..

    Impulse control is another part of crime, that can be handled as a separate issue, rather than blaming porn.

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