[Ask a Girl] porn pressure

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  1. gyfo

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    Hey all.. This is a question the guys can answer to.

    Being a guy. I enjoy watching porn every now and then. I wouldn't say even on a weekly basis. I am just curious to know from a woman's perspective

    1.) How many of you watch porn? And if you do, do you watch it alone?

    2.) Do you feel that men watching a lot of porn, puts pressure on on the woman to live up to some unrealistic expectations of them in the bedroom? Especially if the woman is more conservative?

    Your thoughts?
     
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    I watch porn, I watch it alone and with my husband.

    In regards to porn putting women up to unrealistic expectations. Only if the man allows it to. Most men/women realize that porn is just that. PORN. With fake tits and fake women, fake moans with sex that nobody would ever really want to have. It looks cool, but not for us.

    If the woman is more conservative and her SO watches a lot of porn and takes pointers from it, then yeah, it could become an issue then.
     
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    1) Yes, and yes. (Being single kinda does that. :p )

    2) Not really. I think it would take a lot more than porn watching for that, unless the woman is already insecure perhaps.
     
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    It doesn't do much for me, I have tried watching some ..... so I don't bother, each to their own :)

    I would say my 'porn' seems to be erotic lit, now that gets me going
     
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    1. Yes I enjoy watching porn, and I watch it alone more then I do with my hubby. I can really get into it when I watch it alone.
    2. No not for me, I think my hubby just likes to watch it for the fun of it. Now my boyfriend is another thing he likes to watch it and really take lessons from watching I think he used to like to try some of the things he saw. For instance he used to like it when I wrap my legs up and around his neck, and oh yeah my husband likes that part too when I think about it. But he’d put my legs around his neck I think to get more of his cock into my pussy and well oh hell I don’t know why they like it like that, but I think they get it from watching porn. Well what do you think am I correct. And also when they wanted to fuck doggy style and me on top, and then doing 69 and oh hell I am confused now. LOL. I really am not too sure. But I like it all. LOL
     
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    Hahaha that was quite cute.. But yeah I get what you saying. You will take tips and cues from porn and try it out.. And you are right guys do like it... A LOT.

    What I was really aiming at is not so much a guy telling his gf that he wants her to do. But more when the two of you are watching it together. Does the girl sometimes see things she feels.."God I hope he doesn't expect me to do that" IE. Anal sex scenes. Not all women are into that.
     
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    oh ok I get you here. Oh YES and YES on the anal scenes. When we see those scenes I go right away you dont expect me to do that.
     
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    Each to his/her own Moon. I must say I enjoy reading it as well. Gets the imagination going. I get really turned on with the mental images and end up just as hard as I would be watching it. As long as you get your rocks off ;) I've been trying to do a bit of writing. But its not my strong point. Not too keen on someone else reading my ramblings lol.

    There are some really talented writers on here though. Makes for some good reading.
     
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    Said it before; porn does almost nothing for me but erotic images do big time so that is where I get stimulation.
    SO on the other hand loves dirty porn which is ok by me as it gets her ready for sex pronto.
    Like Moon said, each to his/her own.
     
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    same here reading it also gets my imagination going, just as watching porn, the writing on this forum are really good too.
     
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    what about unrealistic pressure on men to perform like the guys in those films?
     
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    yeah I guess guys do feel that pressure, but I think most know that porn is really very fake, but fake fun.
     
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    Lol I think most of us men think we could actually be porn stars lol. With our super egos!!

    Just kidding. Like Jolay.. I take inspiration. I don't have a 12 inch broomstick for a cock, so I need to make up for it in other departments. So I look at porn as learning material lol
     
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    Yes, I watch porn every now and then.

    I like to think that women build no expectations from porn but you do get a few insecure girls...

    I don't think men have anything to live up to, porn-wise! Male porn stars seem to just park-off, almost autistic, and let the girls do all the work!
     
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    1.) How many of you watch porn? And if you do, do you watch it alone?

    I watch porn. I have watched it with my ex husband. But not really into it right now due to lack of sexual desire.

    2.) Do you feel that men watching a lot of porn, puts pressure on on the woman to live up to some unrealistic expectations of them in the bedroom? Especially if the woman is more conservative?

    With the ex husband I felt no pressure at all... and we'd watch and mutually masturbate.. touch eachother.. until the porn was just a blur in the background and we were doing our own thing.

    I did feel some pressure with the ex-boyfriend. I hadn't really felt secure enough in the relationship to do something like watch porn together. Without feeling jealous or thinking that "She turns him on more than I do"
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    I think it depends on the nature of the relationship whether it's a good thing to do without the feeling of pressure.
     
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    Wow.. Now that sounds amazing. I can't say I've ever had that sort of pleasure. I have never had a gf that's felt comfortable watching porn with me. Or watching porn at all.

    But I know what you mean about that lack of desire. I went through a six month patch where I went into my shell. If I masturbated once a week it was a lot. But it gets better.

    Love reading your posts btw ;)
     
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    Yes I watch & enjoy porn. I like to watch it alone or with my boo :) I think any "pressure" comes from ones own feelings about yourself or the relationship. A healthy loving relationship shouldnt make you feel any pressure :)
     
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    my ex and i use to watch porn and laugh at the ridiculous things they do. we use to watch porn bloopers, there are some pretty funny ones out there. current girlfriend, she teases me for watching it. hold my head up high, nothing wrong with it!
     
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    Answer:

    1. I watch porn, Never alone.

    2. I don't act in the bedroom, I respond to my lover. Porn stars "act"..So i feel zero pressure.