Porn Mags

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  1. xdollface

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    After an interesting conversation with M last night, something occurred to me that I had not thought of previously.
    He knows that him watching pornography is a no-no and he knows the reasons behind why I dislike it so much, & he is fine with this because I am secure in our sexual relationship, & does not need to get stimulation from anywhere else but me.
    But after confronting him about a mag, he says it is not the same as watching videos online, t.v., movies, etc.

    What do you guys think? Should I let it go at that while it bothers me still? :/
     
  2. Paula

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    Why don't you let him watch porn? I don't see what is wrong with that.

    Maybe you can watch porn with him...so you stay in control. And make the both of you happy.
     
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    You don't let him watch porn??? I call that a control issue on your part, and a pussy issue on his.

    Best advice: Hang on to him if he's gonna put up with what you want.

    As for if you should get over your issue......it's yours, so be you. Don't change.
     
  4. lbushwalker

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    Everyone needs their own form of sexual stimulant regardless what the partner may forbid or dislike.
    My personal take is each to his/her own kink.
    My lady likes watching porn particularly MFM stuff but to me most is fake crap that does little to turn me on whereas tasteful still shots can be highly arousing. It allows me to carefully savour each curve, skin tone formation, imperfection, and sheer sensual/sexual beauty of the model(s).
    Does that make me feel that I would fuck her if I could? Often but not always as I know much of it is an illusion, trick with lights, angle, cosmetic, image manipulation but it does serve to satisfy the visual sexual craving I harbour.
    The other habitual attribute I have and which angers my partner is that I invariable flirt or try to sexually connect even if only eye contact with every female that that happens by. It is a little game I am fond of and which makes life so very colourful.
     
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    As a woman who is married, I find ordering my husband to not watch porn absolute bullshit. He can watch porn, watch private cams, read porn mags and wank to whatever he wants. I know he's mine.

    That is a severe control issue on your part and a leash you need to let loose.

    Porn is porn.
     
  6. CaliMike

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    Have you considered talking to a counselor/psychologist? That might be a good idea. It might help you understand why you have such a negative perspective on porn. The vast majority of men, regardless of religious upbringing, watch it.
     
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    I can sort of understand your objections to porn, if they are related to objectification of women, unhealthy body image, or even the thought that porn increases the rate of crimes against women (numerous studies show this to be not true), etc. but there are multitudes of examples in mainstream advertizing, marketing etc. that just cutting out porn is really not effective.

    I agree that this is a control issue, and could lead to problems down the road. I don't partake in porn as a substitute for my relationship, but rather to enhance it. I'm a very slow starter, and really don't get my juices flowing without a pretty good nudge. I can't and don't expect R to spend all her time trying to get me going, so porn is one alternative that works for me.

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  8. Trond

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    Yeah, I agree with most people here. It shouldn't be a big deal.
    .....but I hardly think this is necessary :eyes. Being skeptical to porn is extremely common. Talk about it. It's nothing to worry about.
     
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    I'm not going to come down as hard on her, answering the question as asked I'll offer this:

    I would say that within the realm of porn there's a spectrum from least to most personal. Starting from most personal to least:
    Strip clubs
    Webcam chat
    webcam shows
    porn videos
    porn still photos
    graphic novels

    So if you're asking if magazines are less personal, then I guess that answer is yes. If you expect him to be puritanical, that's probably unrealistic.

    In case it's been considered, him doing it but in a way that you don't know is probably not the way to go. It's a road to progressively worsening trust issues.

    Think about what your issue is, if it is with the idea of him looking at other women maybe if you're okay with him looking at you then you could be a source of material for him.
     
  10. Marcpatrick

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    I'm not condoning or condemning porn, but may I ask why it bothers you?