Porn a bad influence on kids?

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  1. Earl_Grey

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    I am starting to think how awful porn is influencing young minds....back in my day anal sex was never heard of now it is becoming the norm. I remember when a friend of mine told me about his girlfriend liked it and it freaked me out (i was about 8 at the time) Now there sees so much pressure on girls in-particular to go along with threesomes anal and other not so nice aspects of porn. I love the idea of anal sex don't get me wrong but i kind of wish i didn't to tel you the truth. U don't know if the idea of anal sex is my own or something implanted in me from watching porn?

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    I agreee. I think porn has pushed anal sex into the "normal sphere", and I'm not sure it belongs there. When my friend and I were talking about the doggy-style position in our teens, he automatically thought we were discussing anal sex (I had seen it in a book about sexual positions, and noticed that many animals do it that way, while he based his view on his dad's porn collection). I also think people should be very careful about anal sex in general, due to the number of microbes in the anus, and greater chance of injury.
     
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    Earl Grey,
    I saw my first anal sex picture spreads in the mid seventies, as it was a big feature of Scandinavian porn at the time. I saw my first anal sex video in the early eighties, from a Scandinavian porn loop on VHS. Ditto group sex, and shaved women, and beastiality, and underage girls (true!). There wasn't any rules as regards to classification, other than general censorship of literature here, so it was anything goes. Magazines and videos were displayed in the open, uncovered, and featured all these things. I have heard that some of the now child porn is from those early, exploratory days of porn. By the way, neither beastiality nor early-teen girls did anything for me then, but I was fascinated by the shaved women genre. That's when I decided to trim myself, which my partners at the time really enjoyed.

    Porn is more accessible and in your face these days, and anal sex has moved from the sidelines of porn to almost every scene. Porn these days doesn't do anything for me at all, the Scandinavian stuff had some male-female interaction, a bit of plot, so fucking, and coming. Contemporary porn is more a woman and a man in a sexual vacuum, the man merely using the woman for his pleasure. I think it's a bad influence in that regard, as real sex is a close interaction of two people who like one-another, or love one-another.

    However, there has always been anal sex in the real world, and group sex (it was around when I was young), and so on. Anal sex isn't that hard, and I'm writing this from my perspective of being very, very thick. If I can do it with a woman, then most normal thickness men should have no problems at all. I liked it as a variation from the norm, and if my wife were willing to take on my size, I would do it again too.
     
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    Anal sex has been around since practically the beginning of time. It was considered taboo and people didn't talk about it, much like oral sex wasn't talked about much when I was young.

    Just because people didn't talk about it doesn't mean they weren't doing it.
     
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    well perhaps the porn today being watched by "kids"may be considered normal by them, I don't know. But I hope they don't think that what they watch is "normal" behavior by most of us.
     
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    Exactly, it was used in our grandparents time as a form of contraception, not to mention the Ancient Greeks.

    I do feel though that modern porn does display anal sex as way too easy and something that is taken for granted.
     
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    What do you mean by "way too easy"?

    I agree that the young guys today expect women to love everything that they see in porn, but the last time I was with a woman that didn't let me do it was in the early 90's.
     
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    true most people don't talk about doing it. Never knew untill about a year ago that two of my best friends loved anal. Some we never just talked about. The subject just happened to come up. And most guys I've dated never brought up the subject nor did I.
     
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    Yeah I'm not saying it never happened before it was definitely taboo and i'm not sure about the comment of 'our grandparents did it as contraception' is quite correct our grandparents were way more religious than this generation and people thought of homosexual acts as 'an abomination' (not my words or opinions).
    I just think anal sex should be something a couple that have been together for a long time 'might' decide to experiment with not something that should be demanded from a teenage lad to his partner after watching a bucket load of mis-representative porn.
    My view of anal sex is something that is difficult for a woman to enjoy apart from second hand ie enjoying the reaction of her partner. It is not like a man who has their prostate wedged half way up their ass which has a bundle of sensitive nerve endings which can be stimulated with anal play or buggery.
    Porn is very titillating but very destructive and very male orientated
     
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    It would seem also that pain and humiliation are porn mainstays, I sure don't thinkthat should be considered the norm. I make love not war, I have no desire to give pain or humiliate a worman, just the opposite.
     
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    No shit, don't bite the hand that feeds you.
     
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    Don't you think porn will just end up breeding another generation of women haters? Even women generated porn seems to secumb to how male porn is produced. Or am i just lucking in the wrong areas?
     
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    Just confirming Earl's thoughts he expressed in the first post, we get so many questions here making it so obvious that people who are just beginning their sex lives are educating themselves about sex by watching porn. I feel bad for them because beginning sex is difficult enough without all of the bizarre images, expectations, and anxieties floating through their thoughts.

    As for producing a generation of woman haters, I think guys' failure to live up to what they have seen could lead to resentment of the women they believe are expecting porn style performances. On the other hand, regardless of what women have seen in porn, I feel sure that if most of them, just once got rammed, flipped, bent, slapped and spit on, dry-fucked 20 minutes, and cummed on, they wouldn't want it again. So maybe for the smarter couples and hookups, the two different perspectives may balance out and they'll live happily ever after.

    I don't know, maybe I'm just blabbering... carry on.
     
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    Early teen girls? Holy shit. I think that's Danish stuff. I heard that one company that used to make this kind of porn is still in business (they stopped distributing that kind of thing when it became illegal). There are probably some 'decent' porn makers out there, but some of them clearly belong behind bars in my opinion.

    Anal sex IS hard for many people, my wife and I could not get anything out of it. I think Cowboy Lover has had some similar problems.

    Anal sex has always been around, but you can say that about almost anything (rape comes to mind, not that it is similar in any way). Anal sex was not a common occurence previously, compared to modern times, even though people may have heard of it. Even the surprisingly open-minded ancient Greeks mostly avoided it during homosexual activities. I don't mind people trying it out of course, I just dislike it when kids think it's the norm, or a way to avoid losing their virginity. Also, you have to be much more careful about hygiene during anal sex. In porn movies, I have sometimes seen anal sex immediately followed by vaginal or oral sex. This is an extremely bad idea if you ask me.
     
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    I think part of the reason why (and I'm just speaking to Americans, not really people of other cultures, because I don't really know their attitudes towards sex) people my age and younger are copying what they see in porn is that no one in their family talks about sex. Depending on what is considered taboo in their families, or if the parents/legal guardians just aren't there, kids will try to figure out stuff on their own if they can. :nod:

    If someone was there to monitor these kids, they wouldn't be getting these ideas about porn being the norm of sex. I remember my mom asking me if I knew the difference between porn and sex, and to be honest I didn't. And I was 15 at the time.

    I'm glad I studied that Human Sexuality class, so now I can actually tell people what the difference between porn and sex. :)
     
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    No lube. No preparation. Most of us aren't that loose. :ugh
     
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    Ask a nursing home carer. They'll tell you about the damage from regular anal sex on our Nannas. Many of these straitlaced folks were likely very religious - they would never have breathed a word to anyone about what they were enduring in the bedroom.

    I agree anal sex is fine in an established relationship and as I've mentioned in other places around this board I enjoy it myself. In fact I enjoy it as much as, if not more than, my boyfriend does, it's not just about his pleasure but about mine too. I was the one who initiated it in this relationship, not him. I still am the one to ask or hint more often than him. Many people of both genders are perfectly capable of orgasm from anal penetration and I'm one of these people.
     
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    Wow... A thought that has rarely crossed my mind but is so relevent that it should have more often. As far as anal sex i have only done it a few times once was with a girl who in the middle of doggy style decided to slip in in herself (not that i was opposed) another was one that i pushed to try and wasnt that impressed and the other was litteraly a couple of weeks ago with my wife she was on her period and decided she wanted to try it. Now i have seen alot of porn some good and most unrealistic and honestly comical to disturbing. I too however started viewing porn at a young age (way less than 18) and find it verry interesting to think that my ideas may have been swayed due to this would i have wanted to try it if i had not seen it before? Or would i have simply been content with traditional sex? Has porn swayed my views? Good question...
     
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