Pleaser or Refuser

Discussion in 'General Sex Discussion' started by pbs, Feb 10, 2012.

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Are you, or are you involved with a pleaser or refuser?

  1. I don't get enough sex, and am frustrated.

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  2. My lover gives me sex, but is not enthusiastic about it and doesn't orgasm.

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  3. We are compatible and both orgasm regularly.

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  4. My lover's sex drive is overwhelming and I can't keep up.

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  1. pbs

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    On the forums I visit, much of the discussion involves mismatched sex drives, and I wonder how many are, or are involved with, lovers who are too driven or say "no" too often, men and women.
     
  2. CosmicEye

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    Im seeing this one chick right now and she seems to be a refuser. Like we've been talking for a long while and talks all this sexy shit over text but when we meet shes by herself and wont really loosen up around me. 2 nights ago actually, I wanted to see how wet I got her and she would not freakin open her legs alittle for me. I got in there finally and it was soaked but I kind of had to force my way in which makes me uncomfortable.

    Anyways, I cant really vote because she is def not my SO. We havent even had sex yet and now Im having 2nd thoughts about it.
     
  3. arkinkykummer

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    I do not have a regular partner but the last lady that I was with we both were interested in pleasing each other.
     
  4. igor

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    Same partner for 49 years. No sex for the last 2.