This is kind of an offshoot to my “Is it cheating?” thread, and anyone who’s read that already knows the story- we're both 18, my boyfriend went to a party, got wasted, everyone was screwing everyone else, he ended up getting a blowjob off his ex, etc. I’ve already decided to go ahead forgive my boyfriend (now actually my fiancé) for that incident, but still, there’s the fact that I just can’t understand why. Why did he do it? Why did it happen? Does alcohol really impair your judgment to the point where you will allow yourself to cheat on the person you claim to be madly in love with with someone you claim you despise and who repulses you (as he claims his ex does)? Was it mostly him or was it mostly the alcohol? Why is it that he didn’t just stop her from touching him period? I mean, I KNOW, I know for a fact that he has no real feelings for this girl, that he doesn’t find her attractive at all (regardless of the fact the he dated her directly prior to me; their relationship lasted for 2 weeks and he claims in retrospect that it only happened at all because he was alone at the time and she was making herself available), and yet, he allowed her to give him a blowjob while drunk, thus putting himself in a position where he could’ve potentially ended his relationship with me, whom he claims to love immensely. Why? Why did he do it? Like I, said, was it mostly him or was it the alcohol? Maybe I’m just naïve or inexperienced or both, but I can’t understand it, so maybe someone here can offer some insight that will help me do so.