So I know this is one of those landmine issues..but what is the best way to approach an SO, when it has become obvious that her lifestyle choices are contributing to her current health conditions, which in turn is causing our sex life to fizzle? Keep in mind I tried constantly since we've been together, to push her to make better lifestyle and health conditions. I tried walking with her, eating better, refraining from drinking, all things that I don't necessarily need to do, but it's hard to encourage someone to work up a sweat, when putting on shoes and a bra are considered too much. What's worse it almost seems like she's utilizing circumstances to justify her ill health. Like now we have a 9month old baby, and I feel like that's just an excuse for 3 more months to not take care of herself, until the next thing comes along(prior to the pregnancy it was a mild prescription pill addiction). It's gotten to the point where I don't initiate sex at all anymore because I do all the work, and it's not really fulfilling to have sex with someone who is tired after about 10mins..beyond the sex I feel like if now at 31 she has trouble picking up our infant son, that I am essentially physically going to be a single father by the time he's 5.. And before anyone asks, yes weight is a concern but to be honest if she were fit, I wouldn't care what a scale says.