Perfect Match But Not

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  1. 07ninja

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    I met a very pretty young woman of 28 at a Halloween gig at the bar.
    We danced once and later made a remark to the effect that I would
    sleep with her or go out with her. Something to that effect.
    We both had zombie makeup on so never saw our real faces.
    I danced with many women at the bar and probably hit on all of them.
    I can't remember too many details as alcohol played a huge role.
    Anyways, a couple days later she added me on FB and started
    messaging each other right away. I didn't know who it was until
    I checked her out after. She said she loved the attention I gave
    her and that I was hot and had a sexy voice. I am 40 with long
    wavy blonde hair and slightly overweight but she is a knock out
    in every way. After a couple days of chatting, we had a missed
    meeting due to her not having a cell at the time and only messaged
    through FB. She is married and we both live in a small town.
    We kept in regular contact after. She said she was afraid to see me
    because she wouldn't trust herself with me. The coming Fri we agreed
    to meet at my place before we went to the bar. It was great and
    she was shy and squirming in her seat. After about half hr, we went
    to the bar separately because her husband was also coming. Once he was tired
    he went home and his girl sat with me and a few common friends.
    Before the bar closed, she walked back to my place with me arm in arm
    with her tight against me. She made me promise no sex for which I agreed.
    We kissed, cuddled and touched. I Sucked her nipples but pants stayed on.
    She left back to her hubby in time he wouldn't be suspicious. We had
    3 such bedroom meetings like this before we had full sex. I spent so much
    time munching her to orgasm and she tasted so perfect and perfect
    body to boot. Since then, she has come down many times and again I
    eat her to orgasm over and over and get her squirting. I love her taste and
    her tightness. She drives me wild. We both can't get enough. She has
    never had an orgasm with a guy before. I would eat her day and night
    seriously, anytime and told her that. We spend lots of time holding and
    cuddling and kissing which I never
    normally do with anyone else.
    Bottom line is that she is married and lacks what seems to be any
    intimacy. I was single for 3 years before I met her and was about done
    with women. She has no kids either so is perfect. Now she is so torn
    on what to do. She loves me and the love I give her but does not
    want to crush her daft hubby. Unreal how he can't smell me all over
    her plus all the cum, hers and mine. I love her to death and would do
    anything to take her away but being a small town will cause huge ripples
    as we have friends in common on both sides. She said she is tired of
    doing all the work at home and cleaning up after him. They both work
    8 hrs a day. Is it right the I bow out or go full bore and have her live with me?
    I want her and for life as I know I could always satisfy her anytime
    she want and would be honoured.
     
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    Shame on the both of you.
     
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    OK thanks, but I don't feel too shamed yet. She is a wonderful woman.
     
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    Is this your first long term relationship?
     
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    No I was married twice and had many other relationships during and in between as well. Marriage 1 was 10 yrs, marriage 2 was 3 yrs. My new woman has had longer relationships as well and is on her 3rd yr of marriage.
     
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    Seems odd tho. That she's going to leave her husband just because she likes the way you eat pussy.....?
     
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    Doesn't seem like solid ground for a relationship....
     
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    Dunno, dunno....there way is more to this and these two really seem to have something for one another.
    I would not judge them harshly.
     
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    The love junkie beast has got its teeth into both of you. This beast can cloud your judgement. I have no doubt that the relationship you are enjoying is exciting, elevating and delicious. You mentioned 'love', and love is a powerful emotion. However, it is not, in my view, a justification for being instrumental in breaking up a marriage (just as hate is not a justification for beating up someone).

    If her marriage is shaky, then that is a problem she needs to deal with either one way or the other, without you exerting an influence over the outcome.

    You might consider giving her space (i.e. bowing out in a gentlemanly way) to let her decide what she wants to do.
     
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    You're both scum. Her for not ending her marriage before starting up with you, you for not waiting till she ends her marriage.
     
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    Thanks for all the input. I am considering giving her space and letting her let her marriage end naturally but at same time don't want to lose her that long. We both have a shaky past, we both want to start anew (leaving past as the past). Before and after lovemaking, we hold, cuddle, massage and talk a lot. Seems we have so much in common emotionally and physically. I don't believe in soul mates but seems it's possible. Her husband sleeps on the couch while she chats on cam on FB in bed. Last night she chatted on couch while he napped in the bed. Once he got up, he took the laptop to the bedroom while she texted me on the couch. They don't have any interaction it seems. He doesn't lift a finger to help around the house either. She comes over to my place when he goes out with the boys twice a week and during her "yoga" class and any other day she can. We seem very powerful together, aka like a ninja. I am not a fat ugly old man myself. I look younger than 40 and look thick more than fat. I have a nice face and am quite intelligent. I have many skills as well. Anyways, this is at the final stages of her decision and fate. I feel something coming. so I will try to hold on. Someones in for a heartbreak.
     
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    I'm firmly with backcheck on this one, for exactly the reasons he states.

     
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    She's scum and you are very very foolish.

    Seriously if she's the type to lie and go behind her husband's back like this, she's the type to lie to you too. I would not believe a word that comes from his woman's mouth, from never having an orgasm with a man before to hubby doesn't lift a finger.

    She's after a good time and you're going get burnt badly.
     
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    Actually ,I'm guessing they're perfect for one another.
     
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    My parents recently divorced due to an issue similar to this. Honestly if I was a relative of hers or better yet her husband the things I do to you. Both of your alls actions is exactly what fucks up relationships and marriages. I am 20 fucking years old and the whole situation is just sickening. At least be a man and wait for her marriage to end if you "truely love her". What do you have to lose? She loves you right?
     
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    to me that is absolutely normal, usual, regular

    :lol
     
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    Repeat x10 "mittimer was right"
    :lol:lol:lol:lol:lol:lol
     
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    You hit it right on the money hun, good call.

    Good advice WC1989, I think his little head is thinking
    before the big head, Ha, lol.:eyes
     
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    You know how many double murders have started out with this same story?

    You are playing with fire my friend... You have had your fun, now walk away while you still can. If she really does leave her husband, then there is no reason you two cant be together.
    That being said, something tells me that once the excitement of sneaking around is gone, your "relationship" will fizzle as well.