penis vs. pussy

Discussion in 'General Sex Discussion' started by nurseharley, Feb 21, 2011.

  1. nurseharley

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    I think there was a similar thread made before but I have to bring it up again.

    It's no secret that people on this forum enjoy showing off their bodies from time to time - obviously myself included - and it's also no secret that female bodies are always welcomed but guys? not so much.

    Why is it that we are so welcoming and open to a female member showing off her goods (often with requests or begging to show off even MORE) but when a guy shows himself, it's repulsive and almost offensive?

    If we were to treat the female members in the way that (some) of us treat the males, it would be taken completely different and be unacceptable and rude behavior.

    Just to be clear, i don't disagree with the dislike of the overwhelming amount of cock pics. I just thought it would be interesting to get some replies on the subject.
     
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    well so far in every thread of female pics, everyone including women enjoys the pics, because i guess women are just naturally more attractive, and yes there are an excesive amount of dudes junk all over herer but its no reason to be repulsed by them, and yeah i have posted some of my own but did that without noticing how many other people have done that aswell, and sorry for that im just curious what people think, and when they give an unfair response just because there are so many on thise site they are automatically repulsed or just not interested in giving an honest opinion.
     
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    Glad we're on the same wavelenth, i've had this thoughts of late, would we condemn a woman for showing the goods right off the bat? Maybe if it was much more rare for the cock-smiths to show up it wouldn't bother us. Or it could be our patriarchal society...whatever guys would want is what "society" wants...society tells us female nudity is HOT! online and that guys showing off are despirate insecure losers. THough case in point, we did have a poster if i recall showed off her butt adn chest (albeit clothed) that was insecure, and we encouraged her and reassured her. You could tell she was insecure because she labeled her ass pix "myfatass"

    But in short, maybe cause we are not overwhelmed by female exhibitionism like we are male exhibitionism, plus even the female exhibitionists contribute and don't just disappear
     
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    I normally agree with you Kermit, but I think it's odd how 'patriarchy' can be used to explain almost anything. Ancient Greece was far more patriarchal (women being kept indoors most of the time), but they had male beauty contests, and some of the earliest depictions of the male nude. Female nudity started becoming popular at about the same time as women were getting more freedom in the Hellenistic and Roman periods. Also look at the most patriarchal societies around today. They are paranoid about female nudity.
     
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    I was just throwing the idea out there lol, but you make a good point, but one could say the patriarchy is in a different form, that tolerates female nudity since women are viewed as sex objects to serve the men. But it's not an answer i'm just throwing the idea out there
     
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    Preface: I do not intend to come of smart in this reply, but I realize it may very well. If you're inclined to have a sensitive backside, then don't read my post.

    SF is by and large made up of males. Most of those males are heterosexual. The majority of these don't want to see dicks. Most of the active females on this board have expressed being "meh" about seeing photos of dicks. Most of this group of fe/males has made it known that they are much more appreciative of the female form.

    Going on that, it should be fairly obvious why nobody wants to see every insecure boy on the Internet's cock in a drive by posting, while a random female showing off is quickly accepted. The majority wants the naked female body, while it does not want to see random cock. Pretty open and shut it seems. Yes, it does create an unfair situation in that even if a male introduces himself first and them posts he'll still get tarred and feathered, while a female can make her first post showing off her body and get applause, but it's what the majority wants, and the majority speaks every time it seems.
     
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    That is the simplest and probably the best explanation so far lol
     
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    :lol

    there are quite a bit of bi men on here and as far as i've seen (besides some extra horny females) they're really the only ones who enjoy the cock shots.

    but still, if we didn't like a picture of a female...could we just say 'ew we don't want to see that' and not be judged differently than if we said that to a guy?
     
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    I don't see why not. Of course then you'd probably get dogpiled by the majority for being weird or something, I'm sure. :p
     
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    The double standard in action, but at least it's in the female favor lol
     
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    Most female pics involve the whole body or just the breasts. There are very seldom pussy only pics. Unfortunately the men tend to post an erect dick and very little else. This is what pisses me off. Guys have abs, butts, legs, nice hands etc but we don't get to see this - just cock, cock, cock and more cock. It gets repetitive, they all start to look the same.

    Also I would more likely show appreciation if a long term member posted a picture or two rather than people who join, flash and run.
     
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    i guess that's the real 'issue' i was getting at with this thread. it is in fact a double standard and one that i'm very guilty of.

    i think it's back to what you said about the guys looking like desperate losers wanting everyone to check their schlong out and rate it, like it's going to give them a sense of approval because a random woman online likes their cock.

    and of course there is much more to look at on a woman, and some pictures can be tastefully done and only meant to tease. much more than just a full on cock shot. maybe if guys were to follow that, it wouldn't be such an issue.
     
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    but is it not fair to say that after a while, boobs can start to look the same too?

    i still think even if it was a female who joined, showed her tits, then left it wouldn't really make a difference to the guys.
     
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    Yes, that.
     
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    I suspect that most of us wouldn't object to a random picture of breasts, but we still would prefer to know more about the mysterious boob-girl. :)
     
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    It seems men are less shy about their own bodies than women & although the gay/bi percentage of men are increasing (including the closet cases) there are still more straight men out there that are repulsed by the idea of male homosexuality but embrace lesbianism.
    Women seem more open to bisexual or lesbian experiences.
    I have also noticed all films (not porno) that display penises are rated 18 where u would happily see female nudity on films rated 15. This, I think, is mainly due to most censorship personel being male.
    The church is also disgusted by male homosexuality although more & more religous figures are admitting to being bisexual or gay.
    In short, thraight men & closet cases have been holding positions of power for so long over most of the world & they like it the way it is & dont want male homosexuality to get a 'look in' in this day & age.
    Men & women are happier to see an unclothed female than male, its our recent political history that is to blame, mainly 'the Man'.
     
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    SL, :sf wasn't always this way. I've been here for 4+ years and I remember a time when if a member posted up a pic of his cock, female members would be all over it.

    See? --> http://www.sexualforums.com/9464-new-pics-of-my-self.html#post122403

    I guess back then, when the site didn't have dozens of albums full of total stranger's cock pics, the female members appreciated when a active male member showed us the goods.
     
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    I've ranted about this elsewhere, oddly enough when you posted this SWL.

    This is what it comes down to.

    We as a community are trying to grow. While some of us longer term members may not necessarily like what comes in, we do not have the right to belittle any man who comes in here and posts a shot of us cock.

    I've noticed it even in photo albums of the men who don't post one of those "hey check out my cock threads"

    It especially pisses me off when a member who's been nothing but polite and cooperative up and leaves because we as a community have ran him off for wanting to expose his body.

    We're all adults here or at least we should be. We can't always keep out the "undesirables" and this community will quickly build itself a negative rap if we continue to run off half the members that join here.

    I do not like why we as community members have decided that it's a good thing to be so rude, hostile and down right shitty to members who come and do this.

    When I first joined, had someone made some sort of comment in the manner that a good part of us do so openly, they would have gotten major backlash for being so foul to members.


    Everyone needs to take a step back and think if acting like this is really what we're all about.
     
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    Maybe but women seldom post just boobs or just pussies. To me that's what makes the cock pics boring. The men post very little else.

    I haven't been rude to anyone who posts pics of their bodies (besides admiring a certain mirror). I feel everyone, male or female deserves more respect. I just wish these flashers would show some more creativity. I also wish members here wouldn't jump on the newbies that make the mistake of introducing themselves with a crotch shot but rather encourage them to post more in the conversational threads.

    I also can't see the harm in posting pics in one's albums right away but I feel they should be kept out of the threads until we've gotten to know each other.
     
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    We've been ruder than necessary toward these new members lately. Most other forums may enjoy such graphic introductions but we don't have a warning sign saying that we're going to be snotty to the noobs. It's nice if they've filled out the profile and an intro, and it's perfectly okay to respond by suggesting we would appreciate it if they do so. We all try to be intelligent and mature while advising people on sexual topics, so it should be easy to refrain from group piling on. What we like and don't like will become apparent soon enough.

    Some members really hate the intro-flashers and get all irritated about it. But the thread titles are always obvious about their content, so you can avoid clicking on it... probably wouldn't kill you if you mistakenly did.

    Just my observations and opinions, I'm not telling anybody what to do or say.