Parents Attitudes to Teen Sex

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  1. oldkid

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    I saw part of a TV documentary last night, with teens and their parents, talking about the young girls sexual activities. Is anyone besides me sickened by 14-16 year old girls openly professing to either wanting to or actually having libertine sex, how they want to do it, (blow jobs, anal) etc? Some teen girls are actually having surgery on vaginas, breasts, etc., and parents approving and paying for it. The common reason they give is so guys will like their vaginas and body, and want to have sex with them.
    I think If I was 16 years old, I'd vote for the above. I think I'm just too old to understand where the young in our world are going to end up. It can't be too good.
     
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    I may not be as old as you, but I, as well as my wife, were having sex at that age. I don't agree with surgery, but you're not going to stop nature. I have a 15 yr old daughter and she knows all about sex. She hasn't had it yet, due to the fact that she's concentrated on school, hockey, and orchestra.... plus she knows that one in three have an STD. They see it everywhere, TV, movies, in music.... sex is everywhere. The most you can do is teach them all you can, tell them of your experiences, and hope they make the right decision.
     
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    I was having sex at 16 and fooling around starting at 13. The surgeries are disgusting at that age and then parents should rot for that. As long as they know what they are doing, using condoms etc, I don't see the problem with having sex.
     
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    I am all in favour of the young being taught/knowing about it BUT in all aspects; the possible dangers involved.
    I think that the young today (I sound old at 46) see sex as just 'another thing' because they see it depicted so often without any 'emotional content'.
    AS for surgery - I would make it totally illegal, parental consent or not, below the age of 21 - how stupid is it that they can't buy drink but they can go having their vaginas 'messed with', or having boob jobs.
    The common reason they give is so guys will like their vaginas and body, and want to have sex with them - Where do they get their ideas from of what boys like? At that age the boys aren't old enough to have had the experience to know that all vaginas vary and all are vaginas are 'good'. Is it from magazines that show the so called 'standard'?
    In the UK a 12 year old girl has just given birth from sex with her 13 year old bf - her father say he is proud of her for "how she is handling the situation". Still nothing in the news about the bf being prosecuted for under age sex (16 UK) or the father for 'child neglect'.
     
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    "She hasn't had it yet, due to the fact that she's concentrated on school, hockey, and orchestra.... plus she knows that one in three have an STD."
    Those are your words. I commend you. Even more, I commend her. This is what young girls should be thinking, not "who I can fuck today", "who should I suck", "why can't I have an orgasm with my boyfriend", and on, and on, and on. I love porn on the web. From what I read, teens are into porn in a big way. Children's minds are still forming, and so pliable. They don't need another stress in their lives. BTW...I broke my cherry at 14 and didn't slow down until I got a full time job. Boys were expected to sew their oats. As for girls, that's the reason the word "slut" was invented. Again, I salute you for parenting well done.
     
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    I am not judging you. I would never fault you for being your own person. High school girls who were fucking different guys in the 50s were derided by almost everyone except the guys losing their cherries with her. She was called "easy". Everyone here was forewarned, I speak my mind frankly and openly. :)
     
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    I don't take offense. I was easy and I didn't care however I'm paying for it the rest of my life. My son will be taught about all birth control, everything about stds, just all the info we can give him and hope he waits.
     
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    Goodonya!:)
     
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    I hope in 10 years my son isn't interested but I doubt it. Best I can do is educate him.

    I think if you forbid it, kids want it more. I hope he will be too busy with sports/music/friends that he doesn't seek out sex. A mom can dream
     
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    It's expected that he'd be interested, puberty will happen. I'm terribly old fashioned but, It doesn't bother me that pubescent boys will take all they can get. As I said before, I'm a "double standards" guy. I think If I had been born 1998, I would relish the idea, knowing it's not my job to protect girls from their urges.;)
     
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    She had a BF for 5 weeks, she said she hated the drama that was associated with it. She has plenty of friends that are guys, she ditched the girls that just wanted to go after guys. She has been ranked #1 in her class academically for 3 yrs and plans on graduating valedictorian. We just spent a bundle on a new cello for her and she's been practicing a lot more. We just came off a successful hockey season, she's the only girl on the team, and has friends there. She doesn't want to get distracted. My wife has told her if she gets the urge to experiment, we'll get her on the pill first, so far she said she's good.
     
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    Sex at ages as young as I've seen throughout this thread strikes me as being very dangerous. Aside from the obvious physical risks (STD, unwanted/unplanned pregnancy, etc) the mental and emotional risks are so great! As a teen I knew I wanted sex. Porn and other media definitely helped fuel that want. Of course I did - that's normal, it's part of being a teenager working towards adulthood. Sexual curiosity is only to be expected. Wanting "great sex" with a custom designed and surgically built body for "great sex" though... that's sick (at any age). That parents would even entertain the notion of helping their child follow through on those actions... they should be reported to Social Services and have their children taken away - obviously they are NOT going to do their job as parents.

    The big thing is that there isn't the necessary maturity, knowledge, and wisdom that can only be gained with time and experience for someone that young to be able to healthily handle adding sex to the mix. Again, I'm speaking of teens under about 16...

    I should stop myself there - it's all pretty much been said here before me and I'm admittedly still WAY to close to being a teen myself (mentally if not in actual age) to really be able to fairly weigh in on this. Plus, I'm just gonna end up putting my foot in my mouth somehow - I just know it! (Probably already did :))