This is a copy and paste from my post over on topix as well. I'm really looking for some genuine input and thoughts here as there are no problems, just more wants. I'm 33, I've had a panty fetish since I was 13. In terms of fetish progression or there being more on the "fetish" side that I like, I have to say I'm pretty normal. I like to lick my gf's ass and she enjoys it when I do. I did want her to pee on me once, but that was just an experiment. She said no, and i was ok with that. I'm not a pushy partner, we tried anal, it hurt her and I felt terrible. It is not something i'll bring up again. We have been together for a little over 3 years now, last year I decided to let her know I had a panty fetish, i was nervous but I asked her if during sex she could hold her panties up to me and let me smell her as i came in her, she loved this and we both came really hard. Now it is a part of our routine but she only cums so hard and enjoys it so much because it is her smell. I've never bought another girls panties, stolen them etc while with my girlfriend. I want us to have absolute trust in our relationship and her to know that I love her, and only want her. However, part of the fetish is the different smells, some smells are not nice, to me while they might be to another guy etc, i of course love my gf's smell but after near nightly sessions with her panties in my face I want more of the old smell back. I do not want to have fantasy about the other women, i just want the thrill of another women smell while I have sex with my gf and partner. Is this going too far? How should I approach it and in an understanding enough manner to which she will not be put off by it. I just approached her about using a sex toy, she's never used one before and rarely even masturbates, I have gotten her to masturbate more frequently and during sex it helps her orgasm, this was not something she was aware of before I asked her to start doing it. The ass licking, we never had done before, i'll admit i saw it in a porn a long time ago and decided to try it out, i loved it so freaking much and so did she. Anyways any comments would be appreciated, we have a great sex life, morning and night, daily until we both need breaks. I just want to add a little more, but i'm afraid she will view it as cheating. Thank you! Oh and she is 24, divorced and from a religious middle class household, but she is not religious. I am not her rebound either.