Panty fetish: gf knows but i want to expand on it.

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    This is a copy and paste from my post over on topix as well. I'm really looking for some genuine input and thoughts here as there are no problems, just more wants.

    I'm 33, I've had a panty fetish since I was 13. In terms of fetish progression or there being more on the "fetish" side that I like, I have to say I'm pretty normal. I like to lick my gf's ass and she enjoys it when I do. I did want her to pee on me once, but that was just an experiment. She said no, and i was ok with that.

    I'm not a pushy partner, we tried anal, it hurt her and I felt terrible. It is not something i'll bring up again.

    We have been together for a little over 3 years now, last year I decided to let her know I had a panty fetish, i was nervous but I asked her if during sex she could hold her panties up to me and let me smell her as i came in her, she loved this and we both came really hard. Now it is a part of our routine but she only cums so hard and enjoys it so much because it is her smell. I've never bought another girls panties, stolen them etc while with my girlfriend. I want us to have absolute trust in our relationship and her to know that I love her, and only want her.

    However, part of the fetish is the different smells, some smells are not nice, to me while they might be to another guy etc, i of course love my gf's smell but after near nightly sessions with her panties in my face I want more of the old smell back.

    I do not want to have fantasy about the other women, i just want the thrill of another women smell while I have sex with my gf and partner.

    Is this going too far? How should I approach it and in an understanding enough manner to which she will not be put off by it.

    I just approached her about using a sex toy, she's never used one before and rarely even masturbates, I have gotten her to masturbate more frequently and during sex it helps her orgasm, this was not something she was aware of before I asked her to start doing it. The ass licking, we never had done before, i'll admit i saw it in a porn a long time ago and decided to try it out, i loved it so freaking much and so did she.

    Anyways any comments would be appreciated, we have a great sex life, morning and night, daily until we both need breaks. I just want to add a little more, but i'm afraid she will view it as cheating.

    Thank you!

    Oh and she is 24, divorced and from a religious middle class household, but she is not religious. I am not her rebound either.
     
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    She will probably view your desire for another woman's smell as cheating AND she may think you are getting tired of her. she seems sexually inexperienced and somewhat oppressed about the subject of sex. Probably from her background.
    My advice is not to approach her about your desire to bring another woman's odor into your sex life. Instead chage up her diet some to add variety to her own ordor. Also you can suggest that she wear her panties an extra day or two as part of experiment of some sort. I guess use your imagination on what to say to her about that.

    Good Luck!
     
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    Thank you for your input. What would be some good diet changes? We are about 95% vegetarian, ie very little meat eaten. Are there certain things that could add to her smell or enhance things?

    I guess another issue is, ever since she got her IUD I think it is called her smell has changed, doc said it would eventually return to normal, but it has not and that has also been a struggle, things are just different, i do enjoy it at times but not like i used to to be honest, i love everything else about her as well.

    I fear like you say, she would view it as cheating. Its not me getting tired of her, I guess its hard to bring up, I've always enjoyed panties without a thought to as the woman they came from really. Just the different smells but i'm sure she would not understand.
     
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    Since you guys are veggies, I suggest varying your normal diet with different spices like Garlic and dressings. Meats like chicken added to your veggies can help change her odor. Fish, can do that too, but careful, fish can backfire. I found with my ladyfriends and late wife, BBQ Burbon Chicken adds a kick to their odors.
    Another trick is to get her horny early in the day and back off. then throughout the day, get her going again. Make her anticipate making love to you later that night. that ensures she stays wet all day which may change her odor.
    You just have to experiment because every woman is different.

    Just an afterthougt here. If you feel comfortable with this idea and think she might too, suggest that she not wipe her inner lips after peeing. this will increase her odor.
     
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    Thanks for your comments again, when she got off work we talked a bit more. One of the problems we have figured is related to the IUD and her PH having changed.

    She was actually pretty awesome, I had texted her earlier asking her if I could take non nuder photos of her in order to take care of my needs and that maybe it would help us slow down our sex. Even though we have been together for over 3 years, we still have sex daily with no desire for it to stop. I like going to bed and having sex, and she prefer to wake up and get fucked before work. So that is twice a day I'm cumming in her, and a lot of the time she has to go right to work so there is no shower until later that evening. We are thinking that might be contributing to change as well.

    She's open, and understanding thankfully. I'd rather do this and talk to her and explore options instead of attempt to betray her trust.

    In the 3 years we have been together i've never looked at porn, not really had a need to. With the IUD and me wanting to give her more time and a break from constant daily sex there has been some temptation to look like i did before I met her. However, it again comes down to trust. I'd rather have the non nude pics of her, take a pair of her panties and think about her, vs some other random girl I do not know.

    So tonight, she gave me her panties and we talked about me looking at some type of porn. In order for her to feel comfortable i'm limited to no nude panty girls, which is find, it honestly what i like anyways.

    So yea, she's pretty awesome and willing to talk, but of course as with all women I have to be somewhat sensitive to the issues so she knows I'm doing this to improve our sexual life together.

    You say fish, what type of fish? We do eat salmon and she's been craving it lately. And how often? We tend to be more of a attempt to live healthy, type of people and limit our intake of processed and foods farmed instead of wild caught/naturally raised and zero red meat.
     
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    Looks like things are going your way. the fish I am referring to is COD. Baked or broiled works best at least once a week. Stay away from shellfish.
    And naturally you cumming in her twice a day is contributing to her change and it does not give her vagina time to adjust back to her natural PH and odors during the day. The IUD only makes it worse.
    Had a gf years ago using an IUD. Hated it. you could taste it in her juices and it interfered with intercourse. I found myself feeling it plus I couldn't bang her womb. I have a habit of wanting to push my head into the womb opening and try to ejaculate directly into it. The IUD only gets in the way, which its sole purpose is to act as a physical barrier to prevent sperm from reaching the womb.
    IUDs generally is reserved for use by women who for whatever reason cannot take the pill or don't want to and don't want to use condoms or spermicide. have you guys discussed other forms of BC?
    Still though, I do stand by my recommendation on the peeing. Give that a try and see if it helps or not.
     
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    Husky42, any updates?