Painful sex help?

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  1. RCASilver

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    So my girlfriend and I are having some troubles with our second life. To premise this she is about 20 weeks pregnant and I have a 9.5 inch erection. We haven't had sex not a long while because sex is painful for her. We both love sex and love the connection it brings us but because she is in so much pain we have to been able to kindle that connection on a regular basis. I was hoping to get some advice on some things (positions toys foreplay etc) that may make it more comfortable and even more pleasurable for her. And of course I acknowledge the fact it may just not be possible until after birth due to increased swelling etc. Does anyone have any advice or information that we may benefit from?
     
  2. scar69

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    Tell her to scoot down to the edge of the bed and hang her legs off then stand in front of her, it was the only way I could have sex while pregnant, keeps pressure off the stomach
     
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    Are you using lube? Try giving her a massage beforehand to relax her and do lots of foreplay. You both may just have to stick with outercourse until later. Read up on sex after birth as well now because some women will have pain until a year after birth.
     
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    Lots of relaxation, preparation, and lubrication - then fornication.
    If she's not relaxed - not gonna work.
    If she's not prepared (i.e. foreplay) - not gonna work.
    If she's not lubricated (naturally or with additional lubricant) - not gonna work.
    (Trust me, I'm a professional. ;))
     
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    I think bc of the baby, this might be a conversation for the obgyn.

    Congrats for the baby!!
     
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    Did you have issues before she was prego?
     
  7. Alwayslearningsex

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    It looks like it was not an issue before from the original.
    I would hazrd an idea tried slow at first and maybe keeping it slow all the way.
    Slide in slow and easy until she tells it's the limit, this would be as deep as you go.
    Then try different aiming angles unless you already know what works.

    Not an expert here, hoping it can work. Congrats by the way!
     
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    Never been pregnant myself but friends who have say they found sex works best from a spooning position. I agree with the keeping slow, lube etc. if she's anxious about the baby etc & this causes her to tense up that can cause the pain.
     
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    Good one MissScarlet'; spooning does lose quite a bit of lengthened and given that Op's length he does needs a "spacer" until after the birth.
    Perhaps a folded towel between her buttocks on his stomach will achieve this plus lots of lube and short strokes should all help.