Painful anal

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  1. scar69

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    I love anal but it takes a while to get me warmed up so my bf can do it painlessly. He has to get me ready using his fingers or tongue down there before he penetrates and it might still hurt even with lube. Anyone have any tips for pain free anal?
     
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    I have zero experience. But if I were you I would research butt plugs. I dont know much about them. I sure it could help
     
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    Use more lube and relax. Try a butt massage before.
     
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    It could be the angle of entry. Exbf had to get the correct angle or it hurt. Once he was in, there was no pain and he fucked me hard.

    I had to be relaxed. Def used plenty of lube. We also had a safe word, which helped me relax.
     
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    Well what was the right angle then? It does seem like it hurts slightly less when we do it standing up rather than me on all fours.
     
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    We always started on all fours. But my hips were a little lower. Two inches made a big difference. I'm thinking it was almost like he went up and not down if that makes any sense?
     
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    really is about the stimulation of the anus prior to trying anything... tease it! for me... playing around and clitoral stimulation prior to trying anything makes it so much easier... all the muscles down there are relaxed and i can take anything!!!
     
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    I consider myself experience with this. Get yourself a but plug, there is a kit that comes with three sizes. The reason they are great is because they are cone shaped, so its easier for your anus to stretch out as you push in vs. a penis or dildo that is already thick at the tip. Get yourself Gun Oil lube. Fingers are also a great idea, lube them really well, then start with one, then two, occasionally pulling on the walls of ur anus kind of trying to make your anus gap. Remember to relax your body and breath (breath out when trying to insert).
     
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    Try different positions, starting out doggy can be more painful, try riding him first that way you have control of penetration
     
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    try the sponning position
     
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    it will always hurt i tried again owww
     
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    It doesn't have to hurt. I have no pain. It's a matter of relaxing.

    Perhaps you get pain because you're expecting it. When we're expecting pain, we get all tight, all muscles contract. Like bracing for impact. You need to take the idea that anal is painful from your mind. If you're expecting pain, your muscles down there will contract and that will increase the friction to painful levels.
     
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    Lube, Lube & more Lube :rolleyes:
     
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    i like it with him spooned behind me
     
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    Try poppers (alkyl nitrite esters sold under names like RUSH). Besides a pleasant euphoric feeling, they relax the muscles in your anus so that it is easier to insert large objects like your bf's hardon.

    As you are in Europe, availability of poppers may vary from country to country. A good bet is The Netherlands.
     
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    telling me to use inhalants that cause brain damage=blocked
     
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    Experiment with different positions. Some positions make it easier to relax, and may change the angle of penetration which would affect internal pain I would think.

    Also try different lubricants. Silicone lubes do a very good job but provide a very thin layer. Perhaps try a thicker lube or a thinner lube than what you use now. Also, I hate water based lubricants because they evaporate and get sticky....sticky is definitely not good for anal. Really my favorites are virgin coconut oil, and WET Platinum. I think that coconut oil soaks in so you have to add more over time.
     
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    So when you are getting done, do you prefer the other guy behind you doggie style or on you back legs in the air like you just don't care?

    I always wondered about that?
    :D
     
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    LOL I'm not sure. I've only done that once....not enough to know the difference. More information than you were expecting, perhaps? hahaha