Over 40, starting again; have any of you been here?

Discussion in 'Sex and Relationships' started by JuicyB, Feb 11, 2008.

  1. JuicyB

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    Dear Friends,

    I'm over 40, 2 years divorced and trying to re-make my life. My x-wife and I are friends. We own a business together which is the main income for us both. I'm finding it extremely difficult to have normal dates again. The few times I've tried with women in my age range, (30 - 45) they were so on guard, I just couldn't get past their defensive barriers. I'm athletic, in excellent shape, and have above average looks. I even appear in TV commercials. I'm ashamed to admit I've fallen into the bad habit escort girls. Currently there is one (early 20s) who is beautiful, and loves having me as a client. She's super sweet, seems thrilled when I call. Genuinely enjoys sex with me. It's just so easy to pick up the phone and boom! I get the full knock-your-socks-off deluxe date in an instant! But a soul mate and a life partner? No way! In this country these girls are from the lower class, which is almost like another planet. Plus I know it's mainly my wallet they're interested in! Should I abstain from this service? Frankly it's hard to resist. Have any of you had to start over again at my age?
     
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    I divorced at 47 and had a "date" with a call girl once (before the divorce was final), then met a woman who I fell deeply in love with and wed. We were only together four years before she died unexpectedly and suddenly. Again, I had a date with a hooker, then stopped by a couple Nevada brothels before I started dating again. I dated women in their late 30s and 40s and found an abundance of them eager for relationships. VERY eager! TOO eager! I met my current wife less than two years after the death of my late wife. We had a long distance relationship as I continued seeing several other women (with her knowledge) until she moved in with me after a couple years. We were married three years later. She's my best friend and I'm sure we're together 'til death.

    I'm a couch potato, overweight and out of shape, bald headed and only appear in front of the television, although I do that quite well.

    You've got to understand that dating escorts is like masturbating. It feels good at the time, but that's as far as it gets you. It's simple, but emotionless. You're not going to find a life partner, not going to find love, not really getting on with your life. There's little point to it. I suggest you put an effort into dating a little more -- dating women who might want you for more than their fee.
     
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    Hi Juicy,

    I've never been divorced but I've had to start over a couple of times in the LTR's I've had. I'm sure it must be difficult to resist when you can pick up the phone and call a hottie to come screw your brains out. Keep in mind, she's thrilled when you call because it means she's getting paid. If you're as fit and good looking as you claim you should have no trouble meeting some nice women. C'mon you're only 43!! the 40's are the new 30's right?? Get out there and be aggressive. I bet after a few nights out actively talking to "upper class" women you'll have enough numbers to keep you busy!! Let the money grubbin escorts feed off the lamo's with no game!!
     
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    I haven't had to start over at your age, but I have seen escorts and I know just how good it can get. Even though it starts with money, the relationship can get quite good. You may be the best client she's ever had, and as good a lover as she's ever experienced.

    I also understand the on-guard issue, women are more critical of themselves than we men. When women are naked they see all their flaws, but we men look past the flaws to the person beneath and the pleasure to come. But I don't see how the beautiful escort is going to change things in this regard.

    I accidentally fell into a multi-cultural relationship because all the women I dated were wrong for one reason or another, and this African woman I met was so wonderful. Having been in this space for many years, I recommend it to any man who hasn't had luck by conventional means. Women from different cultures often have different perspectives on love, sex, men and a lifetime together, and sometimes the stereotypes ring true. And being handsome, wealthy and / or mature is a bonus, not a hinderance.
     
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    Cbr, Seattle, and Joe, thanks so much for your input! It has really been an encouragement!