Origins of Sexuality

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  1. sexynzgirl

    sexynzgirl New Member

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    Hi I'd like to share my story on how I figured I was bisexual and invite others to share :D

    I've just been reading a study on sexual orientation and what influences can make a direct impact. I myself found this interesting because at a young age I used to sneak looks at my brothers pornographic magazines play sexual games with my girlfriends etc before I even had a concept of what it was to be attracted to members of the same sex. My mother caught me in these games with my friends and told me this was a bad thing to do and through this I developed somewhat of a guilty complex about sexual matters. I masturbated on a regular basis from about the age 6 onwards complete with orgasms and thought I was the only person in the world who did this and that I was bad and I had to stop.

    I moved in with religious family members at about the age of 12 due to family problems. This is when I really started to feel incredibly confused as it seemed even more of a stigma to be attracted to other girls as I got older and figured out my family and societys standards in general.

    I left my church where I had become part of the leadership team at age 19 after breaking up with my fiance in which we remained abstinent from sex for the year previously to our breakup.

    After some soul searching I came to some conclusions, that I was most definately bisexual (even though boyfriends would tell me I wasn't) and have come to terms with it after feeling bad and confused for 19 years.

    I hope you enjoyed my story and please feel free to share :D
    How did you discover yourself?
     
  2. Giles

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    I had sex relatively late in my teens, and so formative sexuality took the form of Archie comic books (when I was 11 years old I would trace the lovely shapes of Betty and Veronica onto a sheet of paper and then fill in the naughty bits).

    Later I discovered a men's magazine called Saga (featuring photo spreads of nude women though no pubic hair was shown. One of my very favorite masturbation memories is at the age of thirteen, pleasuring myself to pictures of a naked Adrienne Barbeau (actress and wife of John Carpenter). That woman still gives me a rise to this day!

    -Giles

    (EDIT! Oops, didn't realize this was in the Gay/Bi forum, so I hope this isn't bad manners! :uhh: )
     
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    Your'e quite welcome Giles :D
     
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    My sexuality.. well.. when I discovered I was glancing at guys, instead of girls. And realized that most guys look at girls.. and that I was different. I found many guys to be cute.. I had crushes throughout high school. So yeah, that's when I basically realized... it hit me.. I'm not straight. Well I kinda knew something was up, but I didn't basically accept it until the first month in 10th grade (vivid memories of that month). I was basically called a "fruit", a "fag" and just about every other name you could imagine by peers at my school.

    As far as sexual experiences goes, well I didn't have any until I was 16 with my 16 year old boyfriend.. who was my bestfriend. We were deeply in love.
     
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    I'm sorry that you were teased at school, I got teased really bad too until my last year not for sexual orientation anyway, I just got picked on because I was vulnerable and nervous. The part about your lover at 16 sounds sad :( do you miss him?
     
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    I still do miss him because he was the love of my life. I was much happier at that point, then I am now. Throughout high school, I was also pretty vulnerable.
     
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    I think your a really nice guy Giancarlo :) you deserve some happiness
     
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    Thank you.. that's really nice of you to say...
     
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    I grew up in the sixties in a small conservative town. I heard about gays but thought I had never met any even though I had toured as an actor and singer in professional theatre groups. In my late teens I discovered that most of the male friends I had in high school and my favorite high school teacher were gay. I still thought I was straight.

    I married at age 21 to my best female friend. Our sex life was terrible. After being married for about five years I began having occasional affairs with other women but remained married. In my early thirties I made a male friend. He invited me to come over to his place and then go out to dinner. We walked and talked and had a great time. After dinner we laid on his bed and he showed me pictures of his travels in Europe. Our bodies touched and I realized that I enjoyed being close to him as much as I did a woman. At the end of the evening he kissed me and it felt wonderful. That is when I knew I was bisexual.

    For me sex came later and honestly I have never felt closer to a man than I did at that first encounter.