Orgasming at the same time

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  1. yitbos

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    OK, so my wife was watching some lifetime movie or similar and while I was sitting on the chair doing some things on the computer, mostly reading Sexual Forums, the guy and woman hooked up and you saw the implied orgasm at the same time.

    So I say, come on, hardly anyone has an orgasm at the same time and she agreed but it happens in the movies all the time. And we all know movies are fake, be it tv movies, regular movies or porn.

    When I have sex, no matter if it was someone I dated before marriage or my wife, her orgasm is the first and most important thing for me. Then I get off. But there have been times when I didn't last as long as they did. I know with my wife, we can both be worked up and it seems like she's not ready but I cum and just because I cum, it sends her over the edge.

    But mostly, the orgasms are not at the same time and are far apart. So I wanted to know, what about all of you. Do you actually have mutual orgasms? Often times? Rarely? Never? Do you try and time it that way? Is it a goal?

    For us, it's not important at all. She cums, then I cum and if it happens at the same time fine, if not, fine as well.
     
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    Never have :(
     
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    we some times do
     
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    We have several times, its not a goal but just something that happens. I dont know if it happens because we are so turned on by each other that when one of us is about to get off it makes the other orgasm but it happens to us frequently! Its an amazing feeling that Ive never experienced with anyone else. I dont know about other women but my orgasms seem to only happen with someone I really care about so when we cum at the same time it makes it that much more intense! :)
     
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    I would say it's about 30% of the time :), It's really enjoyable when we orgasm simultaneously. We don't plan it, it just happens
     
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    I've managed it a few times. I really couldn't say if it feels any better since it was so long ago, but the idea of it is cool, so it gets points for that. My SO at the time swore it made the orgasm better fwiw.
     
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    It can happen sometimes but you can't program it to happen. Myself and Mr Bunny have but are few and far between :D
     
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    its happened a couple times before, felt awesome .
     
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    Most of the time she has a couple of orgasms before I am worked up, then I ussually cum during one of her later orgasms. But never both at the same time during her first orgasm as portrayed in movies.
     
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    Mutual orgasm is a very satisfying way to climax and was the norm with my longest lasting partner (32 years) but she was nono-orgasmic and so it was always all about her Big climax.
    My current lady is multi so when she has almost had enough Os I/we time it to come together to the finish line.
    It is actually not that difficult to achieve so long as the man has sufficient trigger control and we love it that way.
     
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    I do not track how frequently it happens, and it is not really a goal, but we do manage to achieve it many times. It helps that my wife often gets multiple orgasms, and usually that it when it happens. I'll rarely cum during her first climax, but it is easier after she has had a few, my orgasm seems to cause additional ones for her.
     
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    Hmm,never happened to me either...I think movies and stuff make us feel like if we don't then we are a failure too.I say,EFF that,and I think it is just great you care your wife cums no matter when it is :)
     
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    For us, it happens almost every time, without fail. No, it's not a goal of ours, it's just that we happen to reach that place at the same time, no matter what. She gets very tight when she's about to cum (which usually brings me close), and, even if she's not there, it seems like my going over the edge will inevitably send her over, too.

    We realize that probably not as typical for many couples, and we sometimes discuss it after-the-fact. It's nice to have happen, but, it's become so predictable, sometimes I wish it didn't work out that way. Grass is always greener, I guess. Then again, it's not a bad "problem" to have...

    There was a related thread a few weeks back that you might want to check out as well: http://www.sexualforums.com/28995-is-simultaneous-orgasm-your-goal.html
     
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    From experience I say it CAN :)
    First times we did it she was on top riding me and to my amazement she would orgasm first and go faster on me, I would orgasm seconds later.
    I enjoyed caressing her all over and the look on her face as she was getting closer and closer, a great turn on.
    Then later on I started going on top and same results except it was stronger for her, just taking her orgasm as mine was just arriving. Where is she now ...
     
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    From experience, and I'm only 20 years old have only RECENTLY become very sexually active, it IS possible.
    My partner and I orgasmed at the same time several times before. Her and I both have a tremendous amount of control over our orgasms.
    Sometimes we catch each other panting and getting very close, and so we synchronize, I hold out until she's at the point of orgasming, and I let go and we climax at the same time. Same the other way around.

    It is possible, and it used to happen a lot o my partner and I; however, I don't believe there is any point to do this every time, so we decided to mind each others climaxes and finish when we both felt comfortable :)
     
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    i have to work pretty hard to orgasm with a partner, by myself i can do it in under a minute- but wheres the fun in that?!
    We havn't tried, nor have we ever been able to orgasm at the same time...
    I'll suggest it!
    It's always him trying to hold his back till i cum, and me working REALLY hard to cum asap so i will cum first so then he can soon after have his turn (ladies first!)!
     
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    It has happened for us, but it isn't something we tried to do, it was just a coincidence. Over our nearly 27 years together, I think I remember it happening a few times. I think trying to have simultaneous orgasms probably lessens the likelihood. It's hard to let go and have maximum enjoyment when you have an agenda on your mind.
     
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    My wife almost demands orgasming at the same time. She'll edge herself over and over again, and I'll do the same till that point of no return. But I prefer to pull and pray. Just feels better to me. Or it's a dominance thing? So we kinda do the compromise thing. One night same time, then the next time pull out.
     
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    I have experienced this several times, and it is hot!!!! :D
     
  20. MrScience

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    Simultaneous orgasms are uncommon in most couples and while some couples strive for them, most people find it difficult to focus on their own sexual satisfaction and that of their partners at the exact same time.

    If it happens, GREAT. But as other people mentioned...simultaneous orgasms are not usually a simple, or even worthwhile, goal. Although it sounds like having a multi-orgasmic woman would certainly increase the probability of it happening...