I wasnt sure about posting here but finally have decided what the heck. I have never been able to have have orgasim with a man. I mean for years I didin't have one at all. one of my first sexual experiences I started feeling something wonderful that then at the same time started thinking, NO, I can't do this because I can get pregnant. so that was that. Never had that feeling again over 20 years. So no orgasim. So now recently I thought to try the shower masage. wow. it took some practice to get things right, but I am able to orgasim. I was hoping for something that would last like forever because it felt so good. Unfortually it only lasts a few seconds really. It seems like I desentisise, if not acted on quickly and then after need to take a week or two off to to be able to do it again. If I don't do it quickly, there is no hope of it happening at all. I guess I am happy it happens at all but wish I could do this every day.