Oral sex and one night stands

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  1. JLowe

    JLowe New Member

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    Its always felt strange to me to either perform or receive oral sex on a one night stand with a girl you just met, or one you don't know very well. Is this normal?
     
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    In my younger days I never gave it a second thought. But many of those encounters were alcohol influenced and STD awarness was low. The issue of cleanliness is always there and while one should use a condom during intercourse in such encounters (Especially when you have just met) protection during oral sex is rarely used. I think you are going with a "Gut" instinct that is saying..."Hmmmm. Is this a good idea?"

    While such caution may impair the fun opportinities...its a wise choice I think.
     
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    What for? I don't think it's anything different from everything else.. havin sex IS one thing, and everything that includes is part of the fun :)

    But..I think I dig you when you say that.
    You mean you usually keep oral behaviors for more...intimate partners?
     
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    So you can have sex with her but not oral sex? I don't think we should be preforming any type of sex with people we just met.
     
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    AAahhhh...but remember what used to happen when we lived in caverns, hun ;)

    The man choosed his woman, and we kept it basic^^

    But yeah..you're right! I also usually keep this kind of behavior for beer-filled nights.
     
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    yes that is what im saying.
     
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    Hi J Lowe

    I'd say if your up for a one night stand then oral sex is definitely normal.

    I find it quite strange that some folks can happily have penetrative sex on a one night stand but find oral too intimate.

    In my mind both are equally intimate.
    And with oral at least the pregnancy fear is not an issue.
     
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    yes i see what you're saying. I can't explain why i don't see it that way, i guess it has something to do with the fact that my first oral sex encounter was with someone i deeply cared about, but i don't know why that would matter. I simply feel more comfortable with penetrative sex than oral sex during one night stands.
     
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    We are all different and I think your view JL is fine. After all, there should be no pressure to engage in acts that aren't right at the time.
     
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    Just be sure to use a dental dam on a woman, and women should use flavored condoms on the guys...oral sex is a good way to contract an STD. Herpes is on the rise among teens who think oral sex is a "safe" sexual activity. It most definitely isn't.
     
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    I never really gave it any thought. For me, id always ask a girl for oral if she didnt look as if she was oging that way. For me it is an important part of foreplay, who ever it is. Possibly cos I fucking love it.
    But I wouldnt think twice either about performing on her. Ive had some bad experiances, including a rather unshaven lady, but then if I expect it from then, its only polite to offer.
    But I do hear you bout the STDs.
     
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    I have had one night stands and not that I was uncomfortable giving them oral sex I just really didn't, but then again when I tried to make people one night stands they either became booty calls or boyfriends, so it doesn't count... The one "successful" one night stand I had gave me oral sex but no reciprocation on that part...