Oral sex and facial cumshots in porn:distortion of reality or true-to-life depiction?

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  1. Johnnyboy

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    How common are the following standard porn practices in "real world" sex: oral sex (both from the girl to the guy and vice-versa) and ejaculating in the girl's mouth, face or on her breasts (as opposed to just in the condom, with the penis still in the vagina, which is what seems like the most "normal" thing to me). Judging from porn, you'd think these things are the norm, but I really have no idea how common they are in the real world.

    I've only had sex once in my life and it was totally conventional (we were both virgins): missionary position the whole time, no oral, finished by me ejaculating in the condom with my penis still in her vagina; so I just have no idea what's going on out there. I mean, I realize that every person is different and all that, but I'd just like to know what people's thoughts are on this. I also realize that porn is complete fiction and in no way a depiction of reality, but I think it's become so popular that much of what appears in porn has entered or is entering "normal" people's sex lives. I think this is especially true with young people (born from about the mid-80s onwards), because they reached sexual maturity in about the late 90s, so they've had a pretty huge exposure to Internet porn. This brings me onto my next point...

    I would think that if a guy were to ejaculate in a girl's face or chest 30 years ago, she would have been horrified, whereas nowadays I'm under the impression that it's common procedure, mainly due to the aforementioned influence of porn. I would think the same goes for oral sex. If I were to go down on a girl or ask her to suck my dick, would she get grossed out and think I was a pervert or would she think I was boring if I didn't do it? The same with the ejaculation - if I were to pull out, take off the condom and cum in her mouth, on her face or on her tits or body, would she freak out and think I was a total sicko or would it be completely normal?

    I know that it depends hugely on each person, but I'm just asking as a whole, in general, how common are these practices (among, say, people in their late teens and twenties)? How should one act in a sexual situation? What's the "expected" behavior? I guess I'm just totally clueless about this and don't want to do something "wrong" the next time I'm with a girl. I suppose it's best to play it safe and keep things "vanilla" at first until you get an idea of what the girl is into and then get kinkier (oral, cumshots, etc.) if the girl seems receptive, or just let her take the initiative on all kinky stuff. Am I right? I'd like to have a better idea of what's going on out there, though, so I can take the initiative a little more and be more assertive, without having to worry about committing a serious sexual faux pas. So that's why I'm posting this. Thanks for reading and sorry if it's a little rambling, but I wanted to really pose my question clearly.
     
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    I'm not sure....having oral sex is a common practice, and I thought it had been going on since sex began. I'm sure if you went down on a girl, (most of them) they wouldn't think anything of it....And, I've never done a facial cumshot, but I really wouldn't mind it once in awhile, (with my fiance) provided the eyes do not get sprayed. But,I've had other places on me finished on, and I can't say it freaked me out. I rather liked it. So, a lot of the things you speak of are pretty normal.
     
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    Oh, and it's really different for a lot of women. You should probably talk to her, so that you know your sexual preferences.
     
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    Interesting question. :)

    I think oral sex is pretty common these days. But there will be a few who are still grossed out by it. I remember when I first learned of it's existence, my mother thought it was something "not even animals did!!" and she thought it was horrible. My sister agreed with her, I didn't answer lol. I wish I had the nerve to ask my sister if she feels the same all these years later.

    Cum shots on the face... is not something I would be interested in. But that's just me. I have had him pull out and cum over my tattoo on my lower back, or I suck him an he cums over my breasts, but that was just for a change. Usually I would expect him to cum inside me.

    I think they have those sorts of cum shots in porn so that you can see him cum. Cumming inside her pussy doesn't make good viewing. :)

    The thing that kinda bothers me at the moment is that it seems so popular to have anal sex in porn these days. I think that is not such common practise, but it could make youngsters think it is expected, and because it takes more preparation, I feel some kids could rush into it and injure themselves. That is just my opinion, but then I had one experience of anal that was bad and very painful.
     
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    I hate to cum in a condom. I usually cum on her. Her tummy, tits, ass, back, face (rarest of them all).
     
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    Hmmmm.

    Good question, I guess it depends on your partner, for me it is just fantasy although given the chance I would like to make it a reality........
    Any volunteers? :lol
    M.
     
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    I would have to say that the commonality of Oral Sex is not greatly exagerrated by the porn industry. Still being in my early twenties I know that in recent (and probably current) years teens who weren't having convetional sex were still having oral sex. Not to mention the fact that it is a great form of foreplay or sex substitute.

    As far as facials, I think those are probably more predominant in porn, although having my SO cum on my stomach, or chest is a big turn on for me

    I agree with the others though, in order to have any sort of healthy sex life it doesn't matter what you do really, as long as you communicate and both you and your partner are into it
     
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    It seems to me that it is all in what you/she likes.It also depends on the mood you are both in.My wife likes for me to cum on her,sometimes.She has ask me to cum on her face,tits,belly,ect.But that stuff is not for every time.

    I have also been with girls that only wanted me to cum one place in her.

    Some girls dont like cum so if you have doubts just ask.
     
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    It's been my personal experience that oral sex is the norm. I've had roughly 15 different partners over the years, given oral to every one of them and received it from all but two, and one of those was a one-time deal. For most it's a very important part of love making.

    As for the facials, etc., I've only done that to one partner a few times, and each time was an accident. She always wanted me to cum in her mouth, and a few times I didn't quite get there in time which resulted in rather messy situations.
     
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    IMO,

    Intercourse=expected
    Oral sex=normal
    facials=not abnormal

    If you see my distinction.

    And whatever both partners agree on is great!
     
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    My SO in me like all types of sex as long as were in the mood, we generally are in the mood for about anything but if she is not she will tell me.

    So generally I finish in her mouth, she likes it and I like it too.
    We sometimes finish in the ass and on her.
    We like to finish in her pussy but we worry about pregancy, she is on the pill but we would rather not take the chance, so we don't do it that often.

    I have finished on her face, she liked it but it went into her eyes so we decide before we do this again she will take her contacts out first. I like it but it wasn't great, a nice thing to do every once in a while. I feel it is a little more erotic to watch it in porn rather that doing it but that is just me.

    But as far as if it is normal I think about anything is normal just less popular than other sex acts
     
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    Like others have said, it all depends on the mood. Wife and I sometimes have gentle lovemaking and other times we get wild and do other things.

    Best type of relationship is when you can do both and feel comfortable with eachother.

    I've never had a woman turn down oral sex but I have met a few that would not return the favor.

    I would also offer this, porn is exciting because it's different. If it were normal people having normal sex, no one would watch it. So I would tell you that porn is highly exaggerated.

    Lastly, don't compare your life with porn. Porn is like pro-wrestling, fake and over the top.
     
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    I think oral sex is pretty normal, though it's usually very different to how porn movies depict it. Facials and stuff, I'm not so sure. I don't do them but I'm sure plenty do. Again though, it's probably quite different to how it's depicted in porn.
     
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    Oral sex is a de rigueur activity in most modern relationships. I can't imagine being in an oral-less relationship :eek

    Cumming on a woman (anywhere) is definitely not something you want to spring on a woman, as there are many who find it demeaning/disgusting. That's something you want to ask about beforehand.

    Yep! That's the perfect summation.

    That's a very good point. The majority of gay men don't even have anal sex! It isn't taboo, but it isn't exactly mainstream, either. Porn definitely distorts the reality of anal sex (among other things!).
     
  15. Johnnyboy

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    Thanks for the replies, everyone.

    I'm also curious as to the expected order of this stuff. I mean, is oral something people do after making out and before having sex or is it something you do after having sex (since it's considered more "intimate" by some people)?

    As for my personal preferences (just so you know where I'm coming from - no pun intended), the thought of receiving oral (I've never had it) appeals to me greatly, but kissing the girl afterwards or giving her oral do not at all (I'm just being honest, I don't mean to piss anyone off).
     
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    If she swallows or spits it out it is not too bad, trust me you will get over it. The passion at the moment will help you get over it.

    For most men after they cum it is over, for atleast a few minute. and most girls would want to clean up espacially if you spray on them.

    facials for the most part are more of a visual thing any way. I am sure it would not be as popular if not for porn. the best filling comes from cumming in a oriface of a girl, or at least rubbing you dick on a nipple.

    For some reason though girls do realize the amount of cum that cums out of you and realize when there is less or more. They see it as a sign of success and seem to be proud of it when there is allot, at least in my experience.
     
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    typically oral sex comes as a precursor to intercourse, however, nothing makes me hotter than jumping back and forth between the two. A little sex, a little oral, little more sex, little head. but this also brings other stigma. You will find a lot of women who like to give head, but dont like to taste themselves on your dick, so oral during or after sex is out of the question. There are a few who enjoy it. Personally it turns me on. As far as my experience, my fiancee has a hard time coming during intercourse unless she is on top, so it is my duty to get her there, and I absolutely love chowing box. The order of events is usually:
    1. Cunnilingus until she comes
    2. Oral for me for a little
    3. Intercourse
    4. My turn to come.

    When it is my turn, i always ask before i pop where she would like me to do it. It typically depends on the position. But generally on her back, tummy, or tits. But occasionally she will ask for it on her face or in her mouth, and im telling ya, nothing will make me explode like hearing those words!

    i think that the key to having a healthy sex life is to be open minded and talk to your partner about it. Facials and coming in the mouth are a new thing in my relationship and after discussing them very thoroughly she was willing to give them a try and she enjoys them now.
    Cheers~!
     
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    It all depends on the person you're with; everyone has different preferences, so any single "formula" that rocks one woman's world may not do the same for the next.

    I wasn't so crazy about fellatio in the beginning...it was something I grew to love. Maybe oral is something you'll want to ease into; it may take a little time. Something to keep in mind is that reciprocation is expected. If you aren't ready to give, your partner may not be in a giving mood, either, and that's only fair. Mind if I ask what you find objectionable about it?
     
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    Re: Oral sex and facial cumshots in porn:distortion of reality or true-to-life depict

    If you're getting close to cumming and you're fucking her, why don't you just pull her close and whisper "where do you want me to cum?"
     
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    Re: Oral sex and facial cumshots in porn:distortion of reality or true-to-life depict

    This thread hadn't received a single post for over two years and was dead and buried. Please do not bump ancient threads.

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