Opportunity for swap

Discussion in 'General Sex Discussion' started by martin9p2, Feb 11, 2008.

  1. martin9p2

    martin9p2 Member

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    Years before I met my wife, she slept with her girlfriend and the girlfriend's husband. My wife says they were all quite attracted to each other. By and by, the women have talked to each other about their husbands, and my wife says the girlfriend now needs a good fuck from ME. Playing behind the husband's back is out of the question, so my wife wants to invite them both over for a romp. (This time, the men wouldn't be attracted to each other.) But now the husband is the hesitant one, possibly because his hydraulics don't work as well as they used to. I NEVER thought I'd have to "seduce" a man, but what can we tell them/him to make this more comfortable for all?
     
  2. WellHungWill

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    I think that it is important to tread lightly here even if you aren't all that good of friends. I am sure that he is having a hard time thinking about his wife with another man especially if things aren't as great as they used to be. I would let his wife do the convincing because I don't think he wants you telling him how great its gonna be to bang his wife. Threesomes are always fun but you can get into some real problem areas when you are too friendly with the participants going in.
     
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    Never ever swing with friends.
    If it's your wife that is really in need of a good fuck by all means join a
    Swingers club.
    And if it's the friend of your wife that really needs a good
    fuck then suggest that She join a swingers club.
    Any club or orginization will take single females.

    Hiker
     
  4. cbrmale

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    I will comment on the performance aspect of this, but ED medication like Cialis should make a difference, a large dose if necessary. The most effective is an injection, Caverject is amazing. Given the girlfriend needs a good fuck, maybe the husband can't perform at home.

    To me it doesn't sound like you are all that close or running the risk of emotional entanglement. Your wife's ex girlfriend and a past threesome (your wife must be an adventurous lady).
     
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    You are in a potentially volitle situation and would be very careful. At some point, sooner rather than later, the other husband of the other couple needs to be told what is being planned. Suprising him and keeping it back most likely lead to a lot of 'drama' and issues that no 'swap' needs. It would most likely lead to a swap that was not very productive. In addition to drama based on your posting it sounds as though there are several unresolved issues such as problems in the other couple's marriage and potential issues in their relationship due to his problems becoming erect. Honestly swapping wives will not solve their problems and most likely make them worse. Also before having the swap you need to talk to your wife and fully understand her relationship with them as I suspect there maybe some type of issue with your wife regarding the other couple. In my honest opinion I would enter this situation very carefully.

    With that said I do not believe you need to 'seduce' him. If the situation is handled like mature adults by discussing boundaries, talking about concerns, and reaching a decision as a group on how to proceed. Furthermore if the situation is not handled like school children you should find that he would not have problems becoming erect and everyone will enjoy themselves However remember it is not uncommon for males to have erection problems and 'cumming' problems in a swap situation.

    In regard in how to tell him and get him comfortable. First his wife should talk to him and they should have time to discuss it in detail. If after they have had a chance to talk and if he decides that he wants to proceed the next thing all of you will have to do is meet. Once all of you meet the first meeting should be a non-pressure situation. Everyone talks about any concerns and tries to relax, without drugs and using a minimal of alcohol. Four people having sex together is a very complex situation where you may find as group of four you may not click, there may not be an attraction, and sex just does not happen. If that is the case then it is fine and do not worry about it.

    If you do find things are going smoothly you want to make sure that everyone is comfortable with sex happening in an sober state free of alcohol and free of drugs. One couple may need to take the lead to move things along but the main thing is do not under no circumstances exceed the agreed boundaries and if someone wants to stop then stop the swap.

    Finally the three of you (your wife, her friend, and you) will have to keep in mind you cannot 'force' someone in to wanting a swap, you cannot convince someone to exchange partners, and you cannot get someone comfortable with a situation that they do not want to happen. The best way to convince him and get him to relax is to show him the respect that he deserves. This means respecting his decision and if he decides to participate respecting his boundaries. If you do not respect him and do not respect each other then there is no way this will work successfully.
     
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    Don't do it if your not all willing, it will end in disaster