Open relationship?

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  1. travis beck

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    My wife and I introduced other peoe into our marriage a few months ago. We were with one of her friends, and she has been with several guys now, once with me.

    I enjoyed being as part of the threesome with her, but don't like her and another guy away from me. I want it to stop, but she really wants to continue.

    Is there anyone out there with experience in open relationships? I would really like to talk with someone.
     
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    Me and mine are in a poly relationship.

    Why exactly do you want it to stop? Is it jealousy, discomfort, anger, resentment etc?
     
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    I am jealous. I'm not big, and the last guy she was with was large. She likes it big, always has.
     
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    How often are you with other men? Always alone, or with him as well?
     
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    Have you told her you want her to stop? You need to be honest with her about that and about why.
     
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    I have, but she wants to keep going. I caved last weekend, after very wild sex, and let her go out with another guy. She came home around 1:00, and we fucked until almost morning. It was great, but I don't like the idea of her being with other guys now.
     
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    Where is she meeting the guys??
     
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    And, are you allowed to see other women??
     
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    Her finding guys is easy. Me finding women is impossible. I can see others, but it is completely one sided in people willing to have a one nighter. She could be with a new guy every night if she wanted. She posted one ad and got 100 replies within an hour.
     
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    Are you not concerned with her safety?? You should insist on being present--for her safety if nothing else.
     
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    And, how is she feeling about herself these days? She ok with all of it emotionally?
     
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    I am concerned, but it really hasn't been an issue. She talks with them at length before she ever meets them. She also gets the room, so it is a safe place.
     
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    You are being naive if you think she is safe in that scenario! Sorry, but you are...
     
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    She is up and down emotionally. She likes the freedom of being able to have sex with other guys. She has only felt cheap once, and that still bothers her. How would you feel?
     
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    You want total honesty?
     
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    Yes
     
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    Ok. Only bc you asked for it? I wouldn't do it in the first place--several guys I barely know within just a few weeks? Nope. Sorry--not judging, just being honest....I would feel used and cheap!!
     
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    I would feel like crap for cheating on my husband. As far as I see it, if he's not on board, it's cheating.
     
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    By the time she has met the guy, I was onboard. She worked me, giving me lots of sex and keeping me horny. So, I caved and said I was ok with it. The sex is great, but I really want her to stop. What would you recommend I do?
     
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    Invest in a chastity belt.

    Try a little harder to enjoy your wife having fun and enjoying her life.

    Butt make some rules for safeties sake. Her's and your's.

    Sounds like you may want to have tag team matches or at least be present for her encounters. Have you tried meeting couples and swapping?