Online relationships

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  1. xeniadraven

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    I was wondering what peoples opinions are regarding meeting people online and how valid feelings can be for someone you have never met in person.
    We all chat to each other here and some take their chat to PM's etc. I'm curious to know if people have found themselves attached to others they have met here and where it led? :)
     
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    I have gone through several points in my life where I spent a lot of time online. A few of those times I met someone and started to get to know them. Every time I was burned. One time a girl traveled to see me from Texas. We hooked up and when she got home I found out she had a husband and kids. I felt terrible. The second time, I fell for a person that didn't exist. I found this out because after 3 months of getting to know someone they said they were in love with me but they had lied about who they were.

    Basically, I feel like meeting someone online can be a great start to getting to know someone. However, when feelings get real or serious, both parties need to step out from behind the computer and see if the relationship survives in the real world.
     
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    Online relationships can be something fantastic if you let it. I actually met my husband online. In the days of Myspace we chatted over a silly little game, moved to messages, then to IM,s, phone calls and finally a public meeting with some mutual friends. As you can see, it turned out great...totally on accident though.

    I've developed feelings for people I've known online and people I still know online. We let one another into our lives as much as two people can over a large distance. There's phone calls, skype, communicating with other people in their life, sending packages.. You can make it work, you just have to be responsible about it and not invest yourself in someone you aren't sure you really know.
     
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    Wow, i think thats a perfect example of how being honest is so important in these situations. If she was married then you had every right to know that beforehand.

    Thanks for you reply zodiac :) xx
     
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    Mitts you are a fine example of online relationship success! ! I think its true that people who meet online can become an important part of your life xx
     
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    I strongly believe you can meet Mr or Ms wonderful on line in a sex forum. I believe as strongly you can meet the creap of your nightmares. You choose the game, anti up and play the cards that are dealt. Careful is a word to keep in mind.
     
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    I guess, not relationships, but had some amazing pms here, she's outta here now though
     
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    i met redic online- back when yahoo had their own personals service. almost didnt answer him when he emailed me the first time. glad i did, we chatted online for a few weeks, for hours at a time before we met in person. almost 9 years later, and still going pretty good. for some people, it works.
     
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    Never had an online, serious, romantic relationship...

    But as of now I've made many online friendships, and one is very dear to me. It think what is nice is that it helps me gain some confidence and people skills, such as building conversation, and being able to make someone laugh and smile.

    Another is that there is no expectations, and no inhibitions when I indulge into these friendships. Like I stated above, one friend has made me leave my inhibitions behind, and really has unwraveled the reins. Is he a real person? Perhaps. Do I expect anything more than the exchange of conversation between a screen? Certainly not.

    But it's always nice to have someone to chit chat to and feel a bit close :)
     
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    I things Interests are created from both sides. You are right that we can not have feelings unless we meet with the concerned person.
     
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    thats like dega vu, RG. mrsbiker:rose and i met there, too. and we know a coup;e who met during online gaming that lived on different continents and are now married!
     
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    I met this guy through a friend on a game I was playing. We were going through somewhat the same thing at the time, so we confided in each other. We started Skyping, just text at first, but since we were gaming it was easier to call each other. So we started Skype calling each other, then video chatting. A couple hours turned into all day and we got really close. We fell for each other, well at least I fell for him. I believe he had all intentions of being with me, but he couldn't get past his ex. After dating online for a while we wound up splitting up and he went back to his ex. We're good friends now.
     
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    I know people who met on-line and married each other who are comfortable in their marriages. None I know of divorced, yet. Don't see why you couldn't meet the right person on line. True, you'll have to go through a lot of creeps but the creeps are everywhere so what's the difference.

    I've never met anyone on-line even for an intimate chat but ay 73, I am not exactly a prime offering.
     
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    My wife and I met on AOL in a chat room about 16 yrs ago and have been happy married for 5.
     
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    I had an on-line relationship with someone on here for quite a while. It was great while it lasted. She is more attached to someone else than me now
    but we still communicate as friends.
     
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    Are you refering to just an online relationship or something that develops into a real-live relationship. You have already read some great stories here about folks who have great relationships. As far as just online relationships that is an interesting subject, something I have never actually done. That being said my wife, a few years back, had what I would call an online BF. She thought it was cool and I didn't really mind either way. They did progress to phone sex, but in the end I got the horny benifits! ;-)
     
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    I guess my question is open to discuss both sides really. Relationships that stay online or those that become more. I think its wonderful that you and your wife have such an honest and secure relationship. :)
     
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    Feelings are feelings regardless if a relation, of sorts, is actually tangible.

    I spent a year and a half in an online relation with a Russian woman.
     
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    I don't see why an online relationship could not progress into true love or whatever you want to call it. I mean, after all you have to meet someway.

    I have never really had an online relationship just due to the fact that I've never, well never tried. No issues though. Guess I'm just not much of a flirt.
     
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