So I've already posted but I have sort of decided I like it here so I thought I should introduce myself. I'm in my mid forties and happily married for twenty years with two teenage boys. Life is generally good but my wife has been very stressed lately. That has affecte our sex life. When we were young we were very sexually active. We had sex 4 to 5 times during the week and weekends were often sex marathons. frequency went down when we had kids but we were still active and experimental. As we got older though, my wife became more conservative sexually. We still seemed to connect well though. As time has gone on our respective sex drives have continued to diverge. The last year or so was pretty dry. Even worse was the fact that even when we had sex my wife not only didn't orgasm, she really didn't seem to miss it. Then this summer, We had some of the best sex we had had in years. She was initiating sex, we were making it last, coming more than just once per session, trying out positions we hadn't been in for a long time. I was thinking that it was too good to be true, and it was because as suddenly as it started, it went away and we haven't had sex in over a month now. Iv'e been feeling pretty frustrated. Over the last few days we've talked about getting counseling and I am hopeful for the future. In the mean time iv'e been lurking on this and some "marriage" forums just trying to sort out my feelings. Oddly enough posts on this forum seem much more understanding than the "marriage" boards. I think I'll read here to pass some time while I try to give my wife some space, try to help her through some of her issues and reconnect. It's better than going out and having an affair.