Oh the guilt!

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  1. loveit247

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    My SO has been off colour for the past couple of days.
    He went to the doctor last night who sent him for a bladder scan. He then came to me and proceeded to be the pissiest, nastiest little bitch I have ever come across!
    I got angry eventually and told him to get off his high horse.

    Turns out the poor bugger has Bilarzia! I feel so bad for yelling at him (although in my defense some of the stuff he was doing was really uncalled for).

    Link for those who want to know what it is.
    http://www.escargot.ch/personel/schisto.htm


    Feel bad much? :eek:
     
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    Loveit, none of my biz, is this a new SO for you?
    Sound like a horrible disease. Any parasitic disease gives me the willies.
     
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    Nah, same one. I know I know.
    But he has made some huge advances and is trying hard. I am not back with him fully though, being careful.
     
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    You obviously have a big heart. Hope it doesn't get broken.
    You were sooo.... over him a coupla weeks ago, I'm surprised you even talked to him again. Therapy must be working for him.
     
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    Meh, he weasled his way back in. LOL! I am a sucker.
    The thing is that I can see that he really does love me. I would not be back if I had any doubts.
    I am very very careful with this and I am still holding him at an arms length.
     
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    Good!.....:tup
    However...despite his illness, after hearing about all the trials and crap this guy (and his dysfunctional family) has put you through in recent times.....the jury is still out over wether I should give you a big hug and wish you luck....or just slap you up the side of the head for getting sucked into this deal again.......:eyes

    Ok...so Im a softie.....*gives big hug*:)
     
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    Girl, I'm worried about you with this! Not trying to influence you either way here...you KNOW that he loves you. But ask yourself this question: does he love you the way you need to be loved? If the answer to that is "no" or "I'm not sure", then continue to keep him at arm's length emotionally.

    And if you've apologized to him, then stop feeling guilty. ;)

    BD
     
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    Oh for shit sure. I am not convinced that he can love me like that. He is trying. That is what counts. I am very much living my own life, doing my own thing. I only allow him to see me once a week and then NO sleep overs at all.

    He has some serious work to do before he is allowed closer.
     
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    OK, well good...keep your head on straight, as I'm sure you will. I have to say that your ability to show mercy is very admirable. I recently made the choice to just show mercy in a very difficult situation, and I see that it was the right choice for me and the other person involved.

    BD
     
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    Hey girl! Keep up the good work!!!!
     
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    Thanks all. I have really put my foot down with him. He realises that he has to "date" me now. I made it very clear that I am not short of options if that is what I desire.
    I am very very happy with my decision on how to handle this. In my view I have chosen to give him a chance without getting myself deeply embroiled in a massively emotional situation.

    With regards to the mercy thing, I hope that people will always show me mercy so that is what I do for others. It is always the best decision.
     
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    You are exactly right, LoveIt, mercy is very important! I am glad you have your head above water girl! :)
     
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    I am keeping my head. We talked this weekend and he actually managed to open up to me a bit. It was really good.
    He treated me like a princess this whole weekend, he is really trying. Amazingly enough, I am still not falling back into the whole "fairy tale" feeling again. I am actually keeping my head for a change.