Not sure what to do, he keeps contacting me after my friend ended their relationship

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  1. SarahBear2010

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    My friend ended the relationship with her finance middle of last summer. Then I didn't hear from the guy for awhile. Then all the sudden, he starts contacting me wanting money and occassionally a booty call. Two of the reasons things fell apart was because he haven't had a job for almost a year and a half. Another is he abuses alcohol and dope. The guy told me he has been going to rehab for his drug addiction with prescription painkillers.

    My gut instincts tells me he's lying after seeing FB photos of him surrounded by booze and associating with people that I know smoke dope. That and he doesn't allow me to hang out with him AND his friends after he and his ex weren't together anymore. The visit is brief when I see him so we really don't get a chance to communicate much.

    I don't contact him because I know he's just using for me for money, occasionally there's sex involved and have a hard time saying no because of the friendship of several years we have shared. That and when we see each other, he kisses me and hugs me tightly. My friend don't know about it and I have heard that he harrasses her occassionally since they've broken up a few months ago. She's an alcoholic too and has gotton drunk mid-afternoon.

    No, I do not want a relationship with him and told him that I like being single. When I told him that, he told me he likes being single too and I find it hard to believe ​
     
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    Re: Not sure what to do, he keeps contacting me after my friend ended their relations

    Personally I would remove the guy from my life, he sounds like poison.
     
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    Re: Not sure what to do, he keeps contacting me after my friend ended their relations

    You don't need "friends" like that.
     
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    Re: Not sure what to do, he keeps contacting me after my friend ended their relations

    ^^^ they already spoke my opinion =)
     
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    Re: Not sure what to do, he keeps contacting me after my friend ended their relations

    Loyalty shouldn't be exploited, those who would seek to exploit it, directly or indirectly are not friends as friendship is a two way street, not a one way
     
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    Re: Not sure what to do, he keeps contacting me after my friend ended their relations

    So you're sleeping with your friends ex fiance? Does she know?

    Cut this loser out of your life, it;s what's best for you and your friend.
     
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    Re: Not sure what to do, he keeps contacting me after my friend ended their relations

    You're sleeping with your friend's ex fiancee who ended their relationship badly, is a user, is poor by his own merrit, and who spends what little money he does acquire from the good intentions of others on drugs which are illegal and probably perpetuate his lifeless cycle.

    If, deep down, you don't know the proper response to this question, then I truly fear for you. Dump this loser before he drags you down or gives you a terrible STD from someone addicted to worse things than him (Hepititis-C, HIV, etc...). It happens. And it happens All The Time.

    He doesn't sound like a "friend you've had for years". He sounds like a "friend you had years ago". How long has it been since he's acted like a friend and not a lifeless user that lies and hurts people?

    Come on. Do youself a favor. Move forward and upward. It's a lot easier if you aren't dragging dead weight when you do it.
     
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    Re: Not sure what to do, he keeps contacting me after my friend ended their relations

    I agree with CruelTease and SWGirl.....IMO you need to cut this guy loose...walk away....have nothing else to do with him. Hes a user....you deserve better than this.
     
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    Re: Not sure what to do, he keeps contacting me after my friend ended their relations

    I never slept with him, just had sex. No she doesn't know

    Never slept with him. Just sex. We were friends for several years. He went downhill with the choices he made in life which was part of why my friend broke things off with him. The guy claims he's getting his sh*t together. I don't know that because we hardly see each other since their relationship has ended. I tell myself to just end it and ignore him because he only contacts me on his terms and doesn't show much interest in spending time with me when we meet.
     
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    Re: Not sure what to do, he keeps contacting me after my friend ended their relations

    Sarah....can you do something for me......:ugh
    Go back up to the top of the page and reread every post again on the way down will ya'....
    There's a common theme here girl.....:eyes
    Piss this dropkick off before he drags you down any further!!!!!:yell

    You sound like somebody who deserves better.
     
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    Re: Not sure what to do, he keeps contacting me after my friend ended their relations

    SarahBear2010,

    Go find a new friend.
     
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    Re: Not sure what to do, he keeps contacting me after my friend ended their relations

    Yep agreed, do as all are saying above; drop this dipstick.
    Give no money, no sex, no........... nothing!
     
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    Re: Not sure what to do, he keeps contacting me after my friend ended their relations

    Why not just tell him you don't want HIM in your life.
    First, if he wants to clean up he will do it but he should
    not BS someone to get money and sex.

    Let the guy do his thing somewhere else.
     
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    Re: Not sure what to do, he keeps contacting me after my friend ended their relations

    There is a very fine line between the two, and I am not sure it is one your friend would recognise.
     
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    Re: Not sure what to do, he keeps contacting me after my friend ended their relations

    having sex = sleeping with someone.

    How could it be any other way? :ugh
     
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    Re: Not sure what to do, he keeps contacting me after my friend ended their relations

    I didn't know that. I thought sleeping with someone meant staying overnight with him in the same bed. I never stayed overnight with him
     
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    Re: Not sure what to do, he keeps contacting me after my friend ended their relations

    Literally yes, but when you say "sleeping with someone" 99% of people will assume you to mean fucking
     
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    Re: Not sure what to do, he keeps contacting me after my friend ended their relations

    some people define sleeping as actual sleep? :eek :)
     
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    Re: Not sure what to do, he keeps contacting me after my friend ended their relations

    Get out! Get well away from him and stay well away from him.

    My opinion has been expressed by others already in this post, especially SWGirl, I see no point in repeating it, but I will reiterate it.

    If you have to do the full Forest Gump and run :)
     
  20. igor

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    Re: Not sure what to do, he keeps contacting me after my friend ended their relations

    Not on this forum :lol