Not really sure how I feel about this.

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  1. Barbwire

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    I was just checking the history on my computer to make sure I had remembered to clear it when I looked at porn last week. (I always clear my history because I have a teen aged son that uses my computer now and then.)

    Well, apparently, when I was gone camping Thursday night, hubby was watching a lot of chicks with dicks porn.

    I'm not quite sure how I feel about it. I have a weird feeling in the pit of my stomach. I guess you'd call it a gut reaction but, I'm weirded out that this is something my hubby is into and he hasn't told me. I thought we were past the point of having sexual secrets from one another. :ugh
     
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    Perhaps it's something that he would think that you would think less of him for. My husband watches a lot of porn that I don't like such as brutal, etc, etc and he hides it from me. Only recently he started telling me because I ask him but he didn't want to share with me because he knows it's something that I don't like and disturbs me a bit. Maybe that's how your husband feels.
     
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    It seems to be a more common fetish than you realize, though you'll only learn that if you delve into the... darker parts of the internet. Most guys probably don't want to admit that they like ladies with dicks as much as ladies with pussies.

    Or he thinks it'd weird you the fuck out, so hid it.
     
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    If i were in your situation I would speak to him about it and reassure him that you wont judge him.

    Its already been said but he might just want to avoid upsetting you and therefore chose to hide it from you.

    I think plenty of people, men and women, have fantasies they want to keep fantasies and would never actually want to pursue them. Try not to feel worried about it, but dont let it fester either.

    What bothers you the most - the TYPE of porn he's been watching, or the fact the he has kept it a SECRET?

    Good luck hunni xx
     
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    Maybe its just a curiousity thing as in a one off?......in which case I wouldn't stress too much.
    I'd just keep an eye on the history on the system and see if he makes a habit of it.......and if that proves to be the case, I'd be asking him about it then...:shrug
     
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    Well... By personal experience, us "chicks with dicks" is something that your kind of supposed to think is gross and disgusting. I only know like 2 people that admit to being into that kind of stuff, and one of them is my fellow transgender sex partner =p. If he does like it (and I can only assume he does), I would guess he just feels uncomfortable about it and doesn't want to admit it. Even "gay rights!" people sometimes have to think twice about the subject!

    Yet it seems to be pretty damn common, especially when chatting with random people online where your average person is much more open about stuff, to like this kind of thing. I guess it's a bit like how the general population was thinking about gays before. It's generally accepted to be gay in modern society now (though of course there are people stuck in the past still...), while transgenders of any type is more frequently considered wrong, weird and gross. When I was in highschool, a classmate was bullying me a lot along with the others about being me, but as summer drew near and his friends went a way he was all trying to "make it right" cause he found me "appealing". Told him to suck douchebag dick Oo.

    *ahem* I'm losing focus. Just ask him about it? Whenever I see a skeleton in someone's closet I prefer to pull it out as soon as possible, instead of letting it decay my relationship =p.
     
  7. AtkCCC

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    The secret part may be a small issue but could also just be exploring. Dosent mean a whole lot that he was looking. Wifey and I have watched a few vids like you described. She is way more open to enjoying Chicks with Dicks than I am but its all good.
     
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    I look at a lot of stuff on the Internet that I'd rather die than act out. I guess your husband could be the same. Enjoying watching "chicks with dicks" porn does not necessarily mean he'd want to be with one in real life. It could be curiosity or it could simply be an escape from the everyday. As others have suggested he may not have mentioned it because he was worried you would think the "wrong thing".
     
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    Seems like sound advice here....I can say , I've watched some weird stuff on the Internet. Most of it, I'm not into doing....some of it isn't even sexually arousing but I have watched it anyway, almost like , train wreck curiosity...sometimes you watch something that surprises you...for instance I watched video of a guy getting a handjob ...nothing more...and it was pretty hot..video never showed the person giving the handjob.. I realized after watching it a couple times that in the description of the video it said " gay" ....then I realized that the " hands" looked pretty manly...lol. Now, I have no desire to be jerked off by a man , but that video was damn hot and I've watched it a few times after knowing it was two guys....Just because I liked what was being done to that cock and imagined it being done to me( by a woman )
    As far as the chicks with dicks thing, who knows what peaked his interest in it. I have watched them before, and for me, if I see it as a woman with a cock, fucking another woman....it can be good, but if I see it as a man with tits fucking a guy in the ass it's a huge turn off for me. I knw that may not make sense but that's how it works with me...maybe he was fantasizing about YOU with her/him...I know I have done that with sluttyfairy because she is bi.....and it seems like the best of both worlds all rolled up into one person...lol. Although she has said no way....if she wants cock, she wants a man and if she wants pussy she wants a woman. No blurred lines with her....
    Anyway, I doubt your husband wants to have sex with a she male. Because as I said, I have watched those videos and I don't...
     
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    And by the way X.........

    Welcome back!!
     
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    Did you ever think it might be your teenager? Either way, I say talk. Like just about everyone else here, just cause you look at it online doesn't mean you want to act it out.
     
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    You could ask him about it.. but what is the fun in that? What you have here is the perfect opprotunity to surprise him.
    Tell him you are feeling the urge to try something new tonight, and that you have a surprise for him. Have him lay in bed while you get ready in the other room. No peeking allowed.
    Then walk into the room wearing nothing but a strap-on.

    SURPRISE!!!

    Two things are gonna happen. 1) The lines of communication will be open. 2) He will never hide anything from you again.
     
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    I like this plan, so long as I'm not on the receiving end.
     
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    Maybe it was your son that looked at it?
     
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    Is he really "into it" or just looking around for something different?
    What porn have you looked at the he doesn't know about?
     
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    I'm totally like BB on this one and the train wreck analogy is a good one.
    There is a strange fascination in seeing an apparent female with a dick but to me it is their often exaggerated femininity contrasted that I find most compelling.
    Apparently curiosity killed the cat in this case :eek
    Cum on BB;
    Lightened up, cut your dude some slack and remember how often you have freaked him out.
    For goodness sake have a good laugh why dontcha :lol
     
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    I hope you had a nice trip.

    Porn is so unreal (in my humble opinion), sometimes it's hard to tell who is doing what to whom. Wait--who is that cock attached to? And does it really make a difference? Also, porn videos usually link to other videos like Youtube on steroids, so who can say how he ended up watching those ones. Maybe it was something he didn't know he'd be interested in before, so he wasn't actually keeping it secret. And what the others said too. A lot of good replies.
     
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    I am truly confused by everything past " cum on BB" .....?
     
  19. lbushwalker

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    Oopsy, got my Bs mixed up didn't I!
    Should a read come on BW.............have a laugh.
    So BB you cool, ok?
     
  20. 12barblues

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    Well thank god....was starting to think maybe I had grown tits or something...:D