Hi. this is my 1st real posting here, so here goes. I have been married around 9 months and to this day my wife and I have not had intercourse at all, infact for the last 7 months (apart from the odd day) we have not had any form of sexual or alot of the time intimate play. I do not know what went wrong at all, I am attentive to her, help round the house, occasionally buy her flowers (she is not a great fan of flowers anyhow) take her for a meal. When I try to romantic things, like candle lit dinners she asks what i'm doing. :roll: Before we married she believed in no sex before marriage, and I found this ok. we dated for around 3 years before I asked her to marry me, she said yes and 2 years later we wed. She never talked about sex much then, at the time I thought it was linked to her beliefs. After we started to get to know each other intimately taking it slowly we were both ok with it, before we got to having intercourse she did not feel in the mood as she sometimes suffers with her skin and it had flared up. She has never since wanted anything sexual. When we talk about it, it is me who does most of the talking and she does not know how she feels about it, she does not know why she does not want us to be intimate. Nor will she talk to anyone about it (I have suggested sex therapy), I have purchased the book 'Super Sex' (thinking it would help if we read it together) and she does not want to know. Recently when I have tried to talk to her she has come out with some things that used to contradict how she was. Such as she now apparently does not like kissing (although you would have never have guessed), She never fantasizes or fingers her self. It is like sex is this subject that should never be broached. She often is playful. I have a liking for gloves they can help arouse me. She wears gloves for washing up and sometimes if I jibe/joke with her she will wet one of them take some suds and gently slap my face or rub her hands over my face while wearing the gloves. I love this (I sometimes joke I don't) but she does it with a grin and seems to enjoy it. We talked about this last night and she said she did it because I annoyed her but she could not remember why. Also she often looks annoyed when I talk to her about 'us' and always says she is not. It is starting to get me down. I do not know where to turn. I feel like I'm losing her, she is not the person I knew a year ago. I don't understand why or how anyone can not know how they feel about sex. She knows it is up to her to turn this around. Any advice??? Andy.