Not enjoying sex !

Discussion in 'Sex and Relationships' started by neonice, Sep 28, 2010.

  1. neonice

    neonice New Member

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    Ok, so me and my Girlfriend have been having sex and I am not enjoying the intercourse, why? The positions seem awkward and we can't get any real pleasure. Please help​
     
  2. Hot Wheels

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    Err.....it sounds like your not doing something right:eyes
    Try throwing out the Karma Sutra book and doing a search on here....
    A few more details would probably help too.....:ugh

    Welcome to SF:D
     
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    Hi. The thing that makes intercourse good is what you do together before you plunge in. In fact, a lot of foreplay can really be satisfying sex without even going on to intercourse. So, start by thinking about how your foreplay and other non-intercourse sex is going.

    Also, some birth control and safe sex methods can affect how sex feels and how awkward it is. What are you doing about birth control and safe sex?

    And here's one specific thing: How she adjusts herself by bending her knees and shifting her hips can change the position and how it feels for both of you. It's a little thing, but it can affect things a lot.
     
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    go back to the basics. My wife and I got out the Kama Sutra one time and it was like Yoga meets porn. Did not work out at all. Most of the Kama Sutra is the same 3 or 4 positions modified slightly.
     
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    Yup! Another vote for going back to basics here too.

    Of course Mee makes a great point (as she usually does :)) Find some things that you can do for and to each other BEFORE you get to anything penetrative.

    As long as your not a selfish lover, the more pleasure you bring her, the more heightened your arousal will be too. So basically, by going all-out for her, your receiving benefits from your own effort.

    Think of it this way.....if you usually pleasure her with your hand for a minute or two before "taking the plunge" and she softly moans as you work your hand; try giving her oral for 30 minutes straight and notice the difference in those moans! If she's gyrating her hips into your face with force, do YOU think the sex that follows will be better?

    Give us some more details and we can definitely help you better. My response was geared toward the assumption that your not greatly experienced.
     
  6. SteveWaste

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    Is SHE enjoying the intercourse? And have you found things that you enjoy at all? Personally, there are several things that my Lady and I both enjoy, but there are a couple of things that she really enjoys that are kind of "eh..." for me and vise versa. However, what I really get off on it her getting off on whatever I'm doing. Nothing sexier than a writhing female who's having orgasms exactly the way she wants.

    Maybe its time for some give and take. Do what feels good to her, then do what feels good for you. Spend some time in the middle. Spend a whole day on it if necessary. You've just got to be willing to spend the naked time together to work it out between the two of you. Which is really the answer to most of the sex questions I've ever heard.

    ~Steve
     
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    Maybe it's because you dived in too quickly and aren't comfortable with each other first? Maybe just a glass of red could help ease any tensions?

    Try different SIMPLE positions, or whispering some sweet words. Have a great date before hand also. Rushing into things in an un-natural manner will normally make them feel a little awkward. Is there anything particular that isn't making it fun?