I have been with my gf for 3.5 years now, and our sex life isn't great... I am willing to do anything for her but her not the same. We no longer have sex we just do "stuff" and that is she gives me a hand job. She always likes to rush through to. There is no kissing to get started it's just as fast as it can get done. She doesnt have sex anymore because she says it now hurts when it didnt before, she won't go down on me because its "gross" and she gets irritated if I want to do something out of the ordinary. However she expects me to go down on her every single time we do things which I dont mind but it would be nice to get a little more the a handjob but she refuses... what do you guys think?