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  1. CTRx

    CTRx New Member

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    I was just wondering has anybody ever had this sort of experience before. I've been going through a fairly prolonged dry spell, (coming up to a year this month), and I've noticed that I've started having problems with actually maintaining or even sometimes acquiring full erections. I can still get hard, just not the way I remember being able to, it even looks smaller :ugh. I was just wondering whether my problems with relationships have something to do with this (Like a lack of interest or something)? I'm not getting old, I'm only 20, but it's something that's been weighing down on me. I've never been a ladies man :lol, but my last relationship was very sexual. Could the sudden drop from activity have anything to do with this?
     
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    Probably just has to do with the fact that your not as turned on when your not with a girl. I know there's a difference in how hard and even my size from when I masterbate alone and when I'm with my girl mostly because the excitement level is so high when I'm with her. More blood flow I'm thinking is the difference. I wouldn't think too much of it.
     
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    I agree with Far...

    if you are masturbating alot, the novelty may have worn off... as soon as you get some it will be standing to attention... trust me! ;)
     
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    How often do you masturbate? If you do it too much, it can be like that. Trouble getting hard, disinterest in sex, etc. It's natures way of tell you to slow down.

    If that's not it, it could just be you're not turned on enough or you've gotten sick and tired of playing alone. Try spicing things up. Toys, porn, videos, erotica, whatever. If you're like me, you might end up getting pretty kinky.

    If wasn't a ladies man either when I was your age. I only had one other woman before I got married. I never had any problem with getting excited though. I'd do stuff to make it exciting though, not just laying in bed wanking. I only had you're problem when masturbating too much.
     
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    Thanks for the replies, I dunno, it just feels like I've lost a lot of interest in the whole thing..it most likely is just a mental block, I'm not even masturbating too much at all. Guess I'll have to work on my social skills haha.
     
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    Masturbation may be (as someone said) "sex with somebody you love", and it can give intense climaxes, but for me it's NOT as fulfilling as sex in a committed relationship. When life events have kept me away from my wife I found myself using a lot of self-pleasuring in an attempt to replace what I wasn't getting. It wasn't a replacement, but the increased frequency had the sort of self-defeating effects you described.

    If you are comfortable with the idea (many guys your age aren't), consult a physician. There is a possibility that a circulatory problem, or chronic low-level infection (not necessarily an STD) may be the problem. That happened to me once.

    And, although you may not believe it, the fact is that women don't run laboratory tests and measurements on their partner's genitals to see if they meet the specifications for size, firmness, etc. When it comes to the MOST important sexual organ for her pleasure (and yours), it's the one between your ears.
     
  7. Essene

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    Have you gained weight? Often, extra weight in males increase the amount of estrogen produced.

    There can be stress factors (of course).