Normal to find your own juices disgusting?

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  1. KateM

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    [FONT=&quot]In erotica, one often reads of men who make women touch themselves and then make them taste their own vaginal juices.[/FONT]
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    [FONT=&quot]I find this revolting. I would find it repulsive to touch my juices except when I’m washing myself, and even more revolting to taste my juices.[/FONT]
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    [FONT=&quot]my question is, are there many women like me who would hate to touch or taste their own juices? Would this be a real problem for a man, ie would he find such a woman too repressed or not uninhibited enough?[/FONT]
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    [FONT=&quot]In erotica the man also often puts his fingers in the woman’s vagina. Again, I would find this revolting, mainly because I wouldnt want him to touch me anywhere else after that and smear the juices on my body. Apart from that I’d be worried about the germs carried on his hands that might give me some vaginal infection. It’s different with a penis because that doesn’t touch everything the way hands do. It’s hands that carry the bulk of germs.[/FONT]
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    [FONT=&quot]Again are there other women who feel like this? I want to know how normal my feelings are and also what men’s reaction to my aversions would be.[/FONT]
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    [FONT=&quot]Thank you in advance for any helpful answers. I am asking serious questions in the hope of getting serious answers, so please do not respond with anything creepy.[/FONT]
     
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    Well I'm not a woman. But I will say I have observed a double standard. We men usually think of playing with our own cum gross, while you girls are expected to do so without complaint sometimes.
     
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    Hmmmm....well when I first skimmed over your thread I was going to say don't worry about not wanting to taste yourself...as many women don't...and while it's kinda arousing for the man the first few times he sees it ( after that the novelty wears off and it really isn't that bigga deal...) ...
    But then I read it in detail and I think maybe there are other more serious issues there....your fear of germs seems odd to me and you'll definitely want to find a man that shares your way of thinking....
    I could be way off base here, but that's how it appears to me.
     
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    I could understand if you simply didn't like the taste but you do seem to be a little too obsessed with the germs side of things. As long as your man practises routine hygiene such as washing his hands after gardening, going to the toilet, handling raw meat and so on, he is very very very unlikely to give you an infection from fingering your vagina.
     
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    [FONT=&quot]Thanks, everyone. Well I’m not keen on shaking hands with people either since that’s a good way to get germs.[/FONT]
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    [FONT=&quot]What about the fact I would also hate the man to touch my secretions and then use those same hands to touch me anywhere else? I would hate to have my secretions smeared anywhere else on my body. Is that unusual too? [/FONT]
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    [FONT=&quot]I just don’t see how women are fine with a guy touching their juices and then touching them anywhere else, or performing oral sex on them and then using the same mouth to kiss them anywhere else. really, all other women are fine with things like this and I’m the only exception? That bothers me.[/FONT]
     
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    I used to be a bit like you when I was young and insecure because I thought I smelled bad. I wouldn't even let a man go down on me until I was in my mid-20's. Perhaps you will grow out of it as I did. How old are you?
     
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    I can relate to your dislike of shaking hands. We don't know where those strange hands have been.

    This is your own body you're concerned with, your "love juice". Your vagina is cleaner than your mouth. Do you also have issues with kissing?

    You could shower straight after sex if the thought of your own secretions smeared all over bothers you. I usually do because I don't want to smell like sex all day and I don't want my daughter touching my dried sex fluids but I don't regard myself as unclean in the least.

    Hopefully, as Barbwire suggested, you may eventually grow out of this concern. I've had my own unrelated quirks which disappeared on their accord with time (only to be replaced with new ones :eyes).
     
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    Honestly, I agree that there is a serious double standard. However, I do find it very hot when a woman tastes herself. I believe it's because of porn. Every pornstar seems to love to taste themselves.

    As for the double standard. If my girlfriend asked me, and told me that she found it hot, I would be obligated to. Who knows, maybe I would even like it. I doubt that tho.

    As for not wanting it touched or spread over your body, I think that might be something that you need to address. It comes from your body and it should be embraced as natural. Cum is a beautiful thing and should be embraced fully!!

    However, I am no expert...
     
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    [FONT=&quot]No I don’t have issues with kissing. I don’t see how the vagina could be cleaner than the mouth? [/FONT]
     
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    My wife has a dedicated phobia about germs, but now has no problem tasting herself or me. She used to avoid tasting herself, but that was due to self hatred that she learned in Catholic school while growing up. After she ditched the baggage, she was fine, but still doesn't like to be rubbed all over with my cum.
     
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    The vagina track is self cleansing and normally harbours no pathogenic organisms unlike the rear orifice which does.
    Tasting yourself is of no danger nor is getting it smeared anywhere else.
    Many men including myself love the taste and fragarance of women which I guess is the pheromones at work.
    KateM I believe you have an obsessisve and unrealistic fear of "germs".
    One way to overcome this is to actually learn about them and you will then find that the great majority of them are helpful for us to remain healthy and have an adequate intake of vitamins and other nutrients.
     
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    As well as it being self cleansing, there is no likelihood of germs entering the vagina as we go about go about our daily business, unless you're in the habit of wiping your butt backwards. :ugh

    However, every time you open your mouth to sigh, eat, talk, kiss or whatever, you are breathing in (or eating) all sorts of bacteria. Then, stuff collects around our teeth which unfortunately aren't self cleaning. Which is why God gave us toothbrushes. :p

    In fact I have read that your mouth is dirtier than your arse but I won't quite go that far myself.
     
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    Just for the record, a human bite is one of the dirtiest wounds there is. The mouth harbors much more bacteria than the vagina.
     
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    KateM, I use to feel somewhat as you do in that I had no interest in tasting myself until I met T. Through much communication and play, I actually like it now. It can be very erotic and sensual.

    I'm curious...do you feel the same of semen in that you don't care to have that any place on/in your body for fear of infection? Maybe a talk with your OBGYN or doctor, open and honestly would help your concerns...?
     
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    [FONT=&quot]I don’t actually feel either semen or vaginal juices will lead to any INFECTION. It’s just that I feel it would be yuck to have those smeared on my body.[/FONT]
     
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    I'm sorry, I misunderstood. Or rather typed wrong...
     
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    I am a bit the same actually. I think it's gross to even think about it, like sucking a man after he has been inside me- ugh!!! He would have to get up and wash it first. I have always been turned off by the thought of getting semen in my mouth, or even pre-come, the whole thing just makes me feel ill. Nothing whatever to do with germs either.
     
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    Kate & Beth,

    I understand both of you not liking the taste of semen or of your own juices, and not wanting to get either on your bodies or in your mouths. You might consider that continuing to reject what some call "the essence of desire," or "the taste of love," or any of the romantic terms used to describe those body fluids, may cost you a level of intimacy, or that of your partner. Sure, it may be gooey, sticky, taste bad, and everything unsavory that one could imagine, but it's also the most intimate part of you and your partner, and to reject it may be to reject that part of yourself and him. I believe there is an emotional component that can be fed or starved by attitudes toward these sexual secretions and, accepting or rejecting them can affect attitudes toward both yourself and your partner. Just my $0.02.
     
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    [FONT=&quot]Beth, I suspect there may be quite a few women who feel the same but they don’t say so for fear of seeming repressed or fear of sounding like bad lovers.[/FONT]

    [FONT=&quot]I find vaginal juices more repulsive than semen, though. I really wanted to know if there were many women who felt as I did. Who maybe even didn’t mind swallowing semen though they wouldn’t want it plastered on their bodies, but really couldn’t bear the thought of touching or tasting their own juices or having them smeared on their body. Which would happen if the man fingered you and then touched you anywhere else.[/FONT]
     
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    I grew up with a generation of females that were fearful of even looking at their own sexual parts, let alone tasting them, and I wonder if disliking one's own taste may be associated with that kind of feeling.