No strings sex

Discussion in 'Sex and Relationships' started by neotitan, Jan 8, 2007.

  1. neotitan

    neotitan New Member

    Joined:
    Jan 8, 2007
    Messages:
    1
    Likes Received:
    0
    Gender:
    Male
    Location:
    Pretoria
    This is kinda weird to admit, but I have never had sex outside of a serious relationship, and I would love to try it at least once. I'm in Pretoria, south africa if anyone's interested in joining me. I'm a skillful lover. :phat

    Out of interest sake, I'd also like to hear from others who've had anonymous sex before. Opinion: better or worse than sex in a relationship? :eyes
     
  2. SayAnything

    SayAnything New Member

    Joined:
    Jan 7, 2007
    Messages:
    16
    Likes Received:
    0
    Gender:
    Female
    Location:
    New Jersey
    Honstly I enjoy sex when there is commitment. Ive done the one night stand thing and I thought that I would love it because its something that I normally wouldnt do, but I hated it and it made me feel bad. I'm not saying that other people shouldn't do it. I know plenty of people who love it more than being in a relationship. Its all preference. P.S to all who read this im a horrible speller.
     
  3. Puss_in_boots

    Puss_in_boots Adminatrix
    Gold Member

    Joined:
    Apr 19, 2006
    Messages:
    6,443
    Likes Received:
    13
    Gender:
    Female
    Not really. The spellchecker only caught one misspelled word (honstly), and two punctuation errors. Good job!
     
  4. heelfetish

    Gold Member

    Joined:
    Nov 23, 2006
    Messages:
    7,392
    Likes Received:
    6
    I've never had sex outside a committed relationship, so I can't comment on it. But my gut reaction would be to say that besides the physical element, sex in a loving relationship would have to be better. There is an emotional component of sex that just wouldn't exist, and to me sex would feel empty without it.
     
  5. cbrmale

    Gold Member

    Joined:
    Sep 26, 2006
    Messages:
    3,493
    Likes Received:
    291
    Gender:
    Male
    Location:
    Canberra
    I've had lots of relationship sex, and a lot of casual sex, and they are quite different to each other. Relationship sex is an extension of the relationship itself, it is warm and mellow and connected and loving. Casual sex is more adventurous, more exciting, and always takes you to unusual places because you've never been there before with that particular girl. Sometimes casual sex with someone you just don't click with is pretty empty, but most of my experiences were very good, and I did a lot of things I would never have done in a relationship. Indeed, some things I learned through casual sex I then taught to my longer-term partners, there is less learning involved when you've been with an expert in a certain something.

    The other thing is the memories, I can remember some of those encounters in graphic and amazing detail.

    So I like both, and I certainly don't put down casual sex, because if two peoples minds are in the place, it can work really well.
     
  6. whatsup5552001

    whatsup5552001 New Member

    Joined:
    Jan 15, 2007
    Messages:
    11
    Likes Received:
    0
    Gender:
    Male
    Location:
    New York
    i could never do it..i am to much of a relationship guy and I don't think i could separate the sex as just a physical thing....if you can do that you can have fun with no strings sex
     
  7. NaughtyKnickers

    Gold Member

    Joined:
    Jan 9, 2007
    Messages:
    1,609
    Likes Received:
    8
    Gender:
    Female

    :eyes Same thing here. Seperating the two is not something I can do.
     
  8. bighiker2003

    bighiker2003 Banned

    Joined:
    Jan 27, 2004
    Messages:
    3,754
    Likes Received:
    8
    Gender:
    Male
    Location:
    Northern Indiana
    Ditto: No strings sex, is just sex, I want more, A woman that I
    can LOVE not just have sex with.:sf
     
  9. Dreama

    Gold Member

    Joined:
    May 16, 2006
    Messages:
    3,890
    Likes Received:
    15
    Gender:
    Female
    I could never be in that kind of a situation, because I love loving someone else. If the emotional were subtracted from the equation, the sex just wouldn't be worth it.
     
  10. Babiegurl

    Babiegurl New Member

    Joined:
    Nov 9, 2006
    Messages:
    325
    Likes Received:
    11
    Gender:
    Female
    Location:
    Colorado
    Ok now I feel like a bad person... I can totally seperate the two. I've have sex with no strings I have enjoyed it but I wouldnt sleep with someone I hardly know. I just dont find it safe. I have only done it a few times enough to count on one hand.
     
  11. heelfetish

    Gold Member

    Joined:
    Nov 23, 2006
    Messages:
    7,392
    Likes Received:
    6
    It doesn't make you a bad person, Babiegurl. :)
     
  12. Babiegurl

    Babiegurl New Member

    Joined:
    Nov 9, 2006
    Messages:
    325
    Likes Received:
    11
    Gender:
    Female
    Location:
    Colorado
    I guess thats just something that doesnt matter to my sex life. I dont have to have romantic feelings about a guy to sleep with him. Its more of an attraction thing for me.
     
  13. cbrmale

    Gold Member

    Joined:
    Sep 26, 2006
    Messages:
    3,493
    Likes Received:
    291
    Gender:
    Male
    Location:
    Canberra
    I am the same as you, I don't need romance to have sex. I guess you need to have good casual sex to appreciate the finer points. I love both, as I posted, but the most memorable encounters in my life have been casual ones.
     
  14. SexyScorp

    Gold Member

    Joined:
    Jan 20, 2007
    Messages:
    2,778
    Likes Received:
    18
    Gender:
    Female
    Location:
    ireland
    The two dont compare for me

    Sex with someone I dont know or dont have a connection with, pales into significance compared to the a lover i love...i only did it once or twice just to see how it felt.

    love really does it for me...love and sex together....heaven!
     
  15. emerlyj

    emerlyj New Member

    Joined:
    Jan 16, 2007
    Messages:
    551
    Likes Received:
    6
    Gender:
    Female
    Location:
    Wales
    I have to agree. Sex without feeling is completely empty for me
     
  16. SexyScorp

    Gold Member

    Joined:
    Jan 20, 2007
    Messages:
    2,778
    Likes Received:
    18
    Gender:
    Female
    Location:
    ireland
    Maybe its something to do with feeling very deeply....

    I admire people who can detach more...but I cant, the idea of no strings appeals...but I aint never gonna be able to do it...unless when I am a very old woman I feel, aahhh feck it and grab some young one...haha!!

    My feelings run very deeply and before I give my body, soul and spirit, I gotta love that man...
     
  17. NaughtyKnickers

    Gold Member

    Joined:
    Jan 9, 2007
    Messages:
    1,609
    Likes Received:
    8
    Gender:
    Female
    Don't feel like a bad person Babiegurl. We all have different comfort zones, preferrences, etc. What works for one doesn't have to work for the next. ;)
     
  18. doberman

    doberman New Member

    Joined:
    Jan 24, 2007
    Messages:
    461
    Likes Received:
    0
    Gender:
    Male
    Location:
    switzerland
    and how can one have possibly good sex without knowing these? for me, somehow having sex is not only about receiving, but mostly about giving pleasure.. so it hardly can be a satisying sexual relationship if i dont get to know my partner bettter.. and somehow this includes a love-relationship..
     
  19. bighiker2003

    bighiker2003 Banned

    Joined:
    Jan 27, 2004
    Messages:
    3,754
    Likes Received:
    8
    Gender:
    Male
    Location:
    Northern Indiana
    I just may be out of line here
    BUT
    I just have to have some feelings for someone
    that I have sex with Be it on line or in person
    I can flirt with some one here and have some real feelings
    for them (i dont know why) But I do.
    But as for going to a bar and picking a Woman
    and taking them to a motel and fucking them No way.
    I just couldn't do it.:sf :sf :sf
     
  20. The Mistress

    The Mistress New Member

    Joined:
    Jan 23, 2007
    Messages:
    197
    Likes Received:
    1
    Gender:
    Female
    Location:
    Florida
    For me....no strings is best. I enjoy the newness and excitement of a new lover. I just hope to not be disappointed. LOL And if they are worthy...I might just keep them a while.

    When it's emotional....things can get too messy. JMHO Keep it simple.